2 Ways To Help Grieving People This Holiday Season

The most wonderful time of the year is not so wonderful for people who are grieving. Here are two ways you can help grieving friends and family during the holidays

Show Up

Showing up is the easiest thing you can do to help someone grieving. There does come a time when friends (and sometimes family) go back to their normal life and loneliness sets in. It is a powerful and intense feeling easily curable by showing up.

I will let Anne Bogel of ModernMrsDarcy explain showing up. Her article reduced me to tears because not enough people believe in showing up. Here is the link to her article On Showing Up.


Drink Deep 

The second way you can help is to Drink Deep.

Steve Siler, of musicforthesoul.org , and his fellow musicians and singers recorded an album entitled Drink Deep, A Musical Journey Through Grief. 

The songs on the CD accurately capture everything from getting the phone call:

This can’t be happening
Start this day over again


to the loneliness that sets in after everyone moves forward with their life:

After the crowds are gone
And the silence settles in
No more cards left in your mailbox
The phone no longer rings
The solitude will whisper
Tempting you to stay withdrawn
After the crowds are gone

After The Crowds Are Gone

to having good days again:

I laughed with a good friend
and was caught by surprise
to feel joy again
Today was a good day


and ends with Christ’s victory over death.

Death has been conquered
The victory won
Christ lives forever with God’s daughters and sons

Death Has Been Conquered

I never believed anyone could so accurately and beautifully capture the emotions of grief but Steve and fellow collaborators did that on Drink Deep.

I encourage you to purchase this beautiful 14 song album and share it with someone grieving so they will feel God’s love, comfort and encouragement this holiday season.

Also purchase a copy for yourself so you will better understand what happens when traveling through a grief journey.

Will you Drink Deep and show up for a grieving person this holiday season?

Additional Resource: 

Here is the link to my original article containing links to Chris Fabry’s interview with Steve about the album and about grief ambushes.

Faithful Finish Lines – Michele’s Journey – Week 2 – Fruity

This post was going to be published this Thursday but I bumped it up as there is something else I want to post since Thursday will be 1 week before Thanksgiving.

Week 2 of my journey included two huge achievements.

Achievement #1

Monday’s are the busiest day in the call center where I recently finished a season position. Last Monday they needed extra help so they called me back for the day. The problem is I would reach for a Pepsi every afternoon to make it through the day. Could I make it through even one day without Pepsi? The answer is yes. My only drink that day was cucumber water.

Achievement #2

The second achievement was accomplished by God. The muscle that I pulled behind the left knee got better. I am now walking without a limp 90% of the time. Thank you God!


Sara challenged us to add more fruits and vegetables last week. I increase veggies during the week and even had a salad for lunch after Wednesday Bible Study. Fruits did not get increased until the weekend when I had 2 plates of fruit at the holiday grief support seminar I helped with last Saturday. Of course, I had to sample the cherry cheesecake tarts I made but cherries are a fruit.     ;-)


As a participant in this program I need to set a fitness goal.  The goal I have set is to walk an obstacle course. The course I’ve chosen is – the mall. It is a 2 story mall with lots of nooks and crannies that are located off the main concourse. The fact that my walk is taking place during the holiday season makes is what makes this an obstacle course.  Although I plan on being there when they open when there are fewer shoppers.

The tentative date is 12/19 but that is subject to change depending upon weather and driving conditions. I live in one of the few areas that gets lake effect snow.  

When the lake effect snow machine rev’s up, watch out!

I will take a selfie of me walking the mall as proof I achieve my goal. While the goal may seem a little on the wimpy side, it is what I feel is best for me as I work to strengthen my knee muscle. Being a widow, there is no backup living here in the house should I further injure myself.

Week 3

So stay tuned next week for my continuing adventures on this Faithful Fitness Lines journey. The post will be online next Tuesday since Thursday will be Thanksgiving.

*Disclaimer: I was given free access to the Faithful Finish Lines program with the promise in blogging about my experience. I am not receiving payment of any other form and the opinions are mine alone.

Weekend Wisdom: Alfred Lord Tennyson



O Man, forgive thy mortal foe,

Not ever strike him blow for blow;

For all the souls on earth that live

To be forgiven must forgive. 

Forgive him seventy times and seven, 

For all the blessed souls in Heaven

Are both forgivers and forgiven! 

Alfred Lord Tennyson

From A Sacrifice of Praise, Second Edition, An Anthology of Christian Poetry in English from Caedmon to the Mid-Twentieth Century; Edited by  James H. Trott.


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