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#1 Way To Help Widows –
Just Be There.
That’s it, that is all there is to it folks.
Don’t just be there when the initial shock of sudden death hits. Be there in the days, weeks, months and years after the funeral. Her needs will not stop after a few months or a couple years but they will change.
In The Beginning
This might mean holding her hand as she cries, handing her one tissue after another, letting her cry on your shoulder, a phone call to see how she is doing, a thinking of you card in the mail, or even an email.
She does not expect you to have the answer to the tough questions such as “Why?” She knows that only God knows why. She might still ask it, but knows you are unable to answer it. Just let her vent.
Take a little time out of your day once a week or every other week to contact her and let her know you are thinking about her and are still there for her.
In The Middle
Her needs after a few months or years might be assistance with plumbing, car, and other mechanical issues as well as someone to mow the yard or fix her Playstation 3 that crashed and burned.
Most likely a widow will never remarry, so her widowhood experience will not end until her passing. It is not easy finding a good man to date.
Take the time to help a widow because you would want the same support if the roles were reversed – and some day they will be.
Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
There is no greater loan than a sympathetic ear.