Widow Of Opportunity (W.O.O.!)

In what ways will you be a Widow Of Opportunity today? (W.O.O.!)

Definition of Widow Of Opportunity

You are a Widow Of Opportunity if you understand that your husband’s timeline ended but yours did not and you see and seize opportunities to improve your personal or professional life.

How to Become a Widow Of Opportunity

You have a thankful mindset. You realize that giving thanks is the foundation of joy. You keep a gratitude journal, even if it is a legal pad and write down 3 things in the morning for which you are grateful or blessings vase where you write down at least 1 blessing a day on a piece of paper and put it into the vase.

You start with the woman in the mirrorThis is the only way to change society’s view of widows. Because once society sees you improving by seeing and seizing different opportunities, they will change their view about you and the rest of us widows.

You realize seizing opportunities might cause you to fail. I’ve failed a lot these 7 1/2 years, Here’s how:


  • I failed to see I was going to be laid off from the bank. I saw it 2 weeks prior to receiving the pink slip but should have seen it sooner. I guess I was too preoccupied with getting through grief.
  • I failed in my career as a loan officer for a credit union. Once you work for a bank do not switch to a credit union and vice versa.
  • I failed in keeping the yard mowed and the weeds pulled. Once I have a good paying job, I will pay someone to do these tasks.

These are just 3 of the many failures I’ve experienced since Joe’s passing. Most of my failures happened after the 2009 layoff when I decided to try new career paths.

You learn and grow from every failure. 

I’ve learned and grown a lot from my failures. The growth was painful but then again, growing usually is painful. I’m learning who I am and what I am able to accomplish. If I had not been laid off, I would never have experienced failing and the growth from those failures.

You are very careful in what you say and what you think. Your words and thoughts will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.  The words “muddle”, “okay,” and “survive” are my self-fulfilling prophecy.

Another example is the old saying “the second year is harder than the first.” Well if you keep telling yourself that, I guarantee the second year of widowhood WILL be harder than the first.

What Chapter?

The world is full of opportunities so move forward and seize at least one opportunity to write a new life chapter about your:

  • Career
  • Travel
  • Dating
  • Hobbies
  • Remarriage
  • Friendships
  • Sports/ Recreation

You could even write several new chapters because the time frame you have to seize opportunities is not brief like it is with a window of opportunity.

God With Us

You get to choose the opportunities you seize. Whatever ones you do take, God will be with you as your guide, your your comforter, and your wonderful counselor.

Window vs Widow

Remember, while widow is one of the most negative words all it takes is the letter “N” to turn it into the positive word – window.

So once again I ask you,

In what ways will you be a Widow Of Opportunity today?

Not Widowed?

In what ways will you help a widow become a Widow Of Opportunity today?

In what ways will you help a Widow seize the opportunity (ies) she sees in her life?

By helping her you are being the hand of God she needs to improve herself and her life.

The Value of a Friend ] Two are better than one Because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10


 UnMask: Let Go Of Who You’re Suppose To Be & Unleash Your True Leader – Jeff Nischwitz

If you are a widow looking to change your thinking and seize opportunities, this is the book for you. (Especially chapters 7 and 13).