Is Valentine’s Day Cheesy?



A lot of people either don’t or reluctantly celebrate Valentine’s Day because to them it is a cheesy made up Hallmark day. It’s just another excuse for companies to get their grubby hands on your hard earned money.

Do I think Valentine’s Day is cheesy? No.


Life get’s busy and while we should celebrate Valentine’s Day every day, we don’t. So once a year we get a reminder to express love to our family and friends. Cherish Valentine’s Day because next year, some of the people you love may not be here.

You will wish they were here even on a day you consider cheesy.

Happy Valentine’s Day. 

Love Always, 





{ Day 29 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – Laugh!

The finish line is in sight!  Only a few more days.

Today’s word is


You will laugh again at some point during your grief journey. Joe’s nieces and nephew laughed at the funeral home when I confirmed their uncle loved Yanni and would air guitar, drum and any other instrument while listening to Yanni. Their dad told them but they did not believe him. Laughter made a painful situation a little easier to bear – even if only for a moment.

Laughter puts the grief monster in his place. It shows him that you will not go down without a fight. Laughter is just as healing as tears. Sharing funny stories brings back fond memories and gives you something to which to cling. It helps you focus solely on the good the deceased did and not remember the bad memories.

Remember to bring laughter back into your life after your spouse’s passing.

Watch this clip from the movie Mary Poppins if you need a good laugh today.

Quote Meditation 

I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.

Robert Fulghum

{ Day 28 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – STRUGGLE

Welcome everyone, (except the remnants of Patricia) to Day 28. Patricia gave Northeast Ohio a good soaking last night and today. I thought she was done but it looks like she is gearing up for round two.

Today’s word is


Scripture Quote

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Ephesians 6:12

Now you might think struggle is a weird trick for getting through grief. Struggling implies movement, lots of movement and lots of energy being used up. You are lifting up your feet, one at a time attempting to make forward progress through the muck. Unlike the Cleveland Browns, you will make forward progress through the muck and mire the grief monster brought to your life. (I can pick on the Browns because I am a die hard fan.)

The best thing to do when struggling is to be honest about it with God and close family or friends, because honesty is the best policy – even in grief.


My Struggles

I’m struggling today, struggling to get through this 31 day writing challenge. Oh, it seemed like an excellent idea back in June. Now I do not want to finish it but I will because the grief monster will not prevent me from helping others. That is what I feel is going on and probably has been going on during this challenge.

My job search is another struggle. Now I did have a great interview yesterday (at least I thought it was great) but I should be posting on LinkedIn, sharing other people’s content and reaching out to connect with people. But (there’s always a but) for this job search, I really do not care about doing those actions.

I want away from the computer and out and around people. Where do I go? People my age are married or are in dating relationships and have their own group of friends.

So you see I am struggling, just in a different way from when Joe moved to heaven.

I leave you with the following quote meditation from Napoleon Hill…and it was not a struggle to find this appropriate quote. I Googled quotes about struggle and there it was on


Quote Meditation 

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.

Napoleon Hill

10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at, where she is running the series 31 Days of Autumn in Ohio – because running a 31 Day series on one blog is not enough insanity.

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