Let’s just name and claim the elephant in the room this week –
A rough day for those fresh in their grief.
For the rest of us it can still be rough if ambushed by the grief monster.
I no longer have a rough time with Valentine’s day because I decided years ago to stay home away from all the festivities, as this lessens the chances of an ambush. Would I stay home if I were dating? No, not unless I was cooking a romantic dinner for two.
Wherever you are at in your grief the best thing to do to get through Valentine’s Day is to make a plan.
Do only what you feel up to doing.
If people want to take you out to lunch see if that can be done on Friday or Sunday and avoid the chaotic restaurants on Saturday.
May Valentine’s Day be filled with joy even in the midst of your grief. Sometimes the anticipation of a holiday is worse than the holiday itself.
Here is a video I got in my email yesterday. May it be of comfort to you this week and always.
“Earth has no sorrow that heaven can’t cure.”
In this politically correct world of ours there are numerous “terms of endearment” used by couples when introducing each other.
Some of the terms are:
- Significant Other
- Special lady friend
- Special man friend
- Special woman friend
- Special gentleman friend
Gone are the days of boyfriend and girlfriend. All this in the name of political correctness and so old people who are dating have a “grown up” term to call each other. Gag!
While all of the above I find ridiculous there is one which is my pet peeve.
My pet peeve of the terms is “significant other.”
Other is the noun and significant is the adjective.
That is my aspiration in life – to be an “other” to someone else. It is rude and condescending to call someone an “other.”
I would rather hear people who are dating introduce each other as “lover” instead of significant other.
Lover implies action for at least one of two reasons, although in today’s society both usually apply:
Yes, before I became a widow I thought nothing about the phrase “significant other” but upon becoming a widow, I started to see differently most aspects of life and relationships.
I’ve always been known as one who sees issues from different angles and viewpoints, widowhood just enhanced this skill.
So as you celebrate Valentine’s Day one month from today, ask yourself “Do I really want to be a significant other?” and/or “Shouldn’t I be referring to the person I’m dating as something besides an “other?”
Instead of a post about grief or job searching, I thought I would give you a preview of what is coming on this blog.
Playtime Makes Me Smile
Tuesday February 14th, 2012 – Valentine’s Day
No “mooshie, mooshie” post about a hot date or other sordid adventures. Instead – it is time once again for a Slideshow! It has been at least 7 or 8 months since I put together a slideshow, so I figured it is about time. It is my Valentine’s Day present to you. It will have you waggin’ your tail. 😉
Check out the “Welcome To The (Slide) Show” page for the other ones I have published.
Starting 2/22 there will be scripture verses for the Lenten season and starting March 1st there will be 17 days of Irish Blessing/Proverbs in addition to the scripture verses.
The 27th – the 29th, I will touch upon some things from Susan Cain’s book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. This book is everything I hoped. It is a must read in order to gain a better understanding and appreciation for us introverts.
Well those are just a few things I have planned, please stick around because you never know what else I might throw at you 😉
Have a wonderful weekend and remember:
“If you don’t live it, it won’t come out of your horn.”
So live it with joy today and always!