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21st Century Parables – Introduction

Good Morning.

Starting tomorrow = I will be writing about some of the parables Jesus taught and explain how they apply to job searching in the 21st Century.

Job searching is one of my adventures since becoming a widow (it is worse than grief).

Lately Jesus’ parables have crossed my mind and I’ve been able to see how they apply to today’s job search. This is a subject I’ve been thinking about for some time and finally decided to do it.

I have a Bachelor of Arts in Rhetoric and Communication (college speak for public speaking) and not a Master of Divinity so I’m not an expert in theology. What I am an expert in is grief, job search, and society’s treatment of those in transition.

The Parable of the Sower is coming tomorrow. Other parables are:

  • The Rich Man
  • The Banquet

as well as any other ones I can apply to job search.

Now off to put paint chips on my spare bedroom walls as I am converting it into an office.

Enjoy your day and I will see you tomorrow.

God bless you.

 

Fear Fighting by Kelly Balarie – A Review

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One of my highlights in 2016 was being chosen for the launch team for Kelly Balarie’s book Fear Fighting, awakening courage to OVERCOME your fears.  The book released today.

Kelly shares personal stories and actionable tips for over coming various fears-inducers including:

  • The Devil
  • Control
  • People Pleasing
  • Worrying
  • Comparison and Competition
  • Waiting While Trembling
  • Rejection and Opposition
  • The Past

which all happen to be fears widows deal with at some point in time.

Not a Rosy Story

It was the chapter on comparison and competition that sucker punched me.  Kelly writes about comparing herself to Rosie and the story was anything but rosy.

I too compare myself to others, wanting what they have so I can be like them and fit in. Whether it was fitting in with the in-crowd in school or fitting in with society after being widowed. Widows do not fit in with society, we are chewed up and spit out on the outside of the palace gates. We are the true deplorables. (but that is a subject for another post.)

Grief and Comparison

I found myself even doing it while grieving. Everyone else got back to normal or in some cases, their lives took off in unexpected and very pleasing circumstances. Me – I was grieving. The only moving I did was to the unemployment line a year after Joe’s passing.

There is no room for comparison while you are grieving. Do not compare yourself to another widow, she make look like she has it altogether but you do not know what goes on behind closed doors.

Once you do discover the details of another widow’s grief, you will most likely decide you are blessed to be experiencing the grief hand you were dealt.

Grief and Competition

Getting through grief is NOT a competition. There is no race to see who can come out of grief the soonest, who has the easiest grief, or who comes out of it looking the most beautiful.

There was not another woman who was widowed at the same time as me, so I did not compete with anyone to see who could finish grieving first or who looked better while grieving. (fyi – you are finished grieving when you walk through the gates of heaven. Revelation 21:4)

Behold His Radiance

In the chapter Kelly also writes:

What we see as our hindrance, God sees as admittance to behold His radiance.

pg 117

Grief is your hindrance, but you will see God in all his radiant glory through the help and support friends and family provide.

And once you see His radiance, it is up to you to emit God’s radiance to others. You do not do emit radiance by comparison and competition – you do that by serving others, even while you are grieving. 

Something To Chew On

Kelly closes each chapter with a section titled Something to Chew On. These are additional thoughts for you to meditate on. My favorite from the Comparison and Competition chapter is:

“Remind me of all the bad, and I will say, “The downpours are just precursors to rainbows.”

pg 121

Group Bible Study

Included in the book is a 12-week group Bible study, or you can do it alone. I am starting the Bible study this week. It will be a great way to kick off 2017.

Final Thoughts

I’ve always said grief is life’s greatest self-improvement course. Fear Fighting is an excellent book to read and  learn how to sucker-punch any fears that arise, whether or not you are grieving.

In Excellent Company

This book is in my stack of favorite books by author’s such as Ann Voskamp, J.T. O’Donnell, Mark Batterson, and Heather Burch. As  you can see it is also one where I used a lot of sticky notes. There are also a lot of highlights and notes in the margins.

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Well done Kelly, well done good and faithful servant! 

Matthew 25:21

Disclaimer: I am part of the Fear Fighting book launch team and received a free copy in exchange for my honest review. The links provided are not affiliate links and I receive no compensation when  you buy  Kelly’s book.

(Special Thank You to the Brunswick Library and the Adult Reference staff for the use of their fireplace and resources. The library served as my office for the past 4 months.)

 

Weekend Wisdom: Environment

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This quote really spoke to me when I found it last night while surfing the web. God and I formed a 2 person Environmental Protection Agency this year. He adds people who are willing to put on a hazmat suit and help with my messy life and subtracts those whom He knows are toxic to me. My duties are to clean my car, yard and house as He gives me strength.

 “You are a product of your environment. So choose the environment that will best develop you toward your objective. Analyze your life in terms of its environment. Are the things around you helping you toward success – or are they holding you back?”

W. Clement Stone

What do you need to clean from your environment?

 

 

Weekend Wisdom: Be Not Offended

Here is a poem from the November 18th daily devotional in Streams In The Desert by L.B. Cowman; Edited by Jim Reimann. May it speak to your heart today and always.

 

Blessed is he whose faith is not offended

When all around his way

The power of God is working out deliverance

For others day by day;

 

Though in some prison dark his own soul does fail,

Till life itself be spent,

Yet still can trust His Father’s love and purpose

And rest therein content.

 

Blessed is he, who through long years of suffering

Not now from active toil,

Still shares by prayer and praise the work of others,

And thus “divides the spoil.”

 

Blessed are you, O child of God, who does suffer,

And cannot understand

The reason for your pain, yet will gladly leave

Thy life in His blest Hand.

 

Yes, blessed are you whose faith is “not offended”

By trials unexplained,

By mysteries unsolved, past understanding,

Until the goal is gained.

 

Freda Hanbury Allen

31 Days of Joy: Day 21 – Honoring The Unemployed & Underemployed

Today I write to honor my fellow underemployed/unemployed friends, family, acquaintances and those whom I will never know.

An change in job status will test even a person with a strong faith. It is a grueling journey. You have 4 – 6 weeks to find a job before society looks at you as a worthless, unemployable person. Their attitude is “There must be something wrong with you since you can not find a job.”

Then there are those who believe that since you are a Christian, you must not feel defeated. You must cheerfully skip through each day like a 5 year old without a care in the world because the Lord will provide.

To the people who believe that I cheerfully say:

Bah! Humbug!

God grows you through trials and tribulations. God uses those times of despair to strengthen you. We are not called to be perpetually chipper people. We are called to live a full life and that includes going through the valley of the shadow of death, divorce, unemployment and other trials so we can grow into the person God knows we can be.

So to the men who stock tampons at Walmart and point customers to the condoms, to the women who are cashiering in hardware stores even though they are all thumbs when it comes to hammering a nail, to all the unemployed who are learning how to write resumes and learning how to network –

I honor you for your valiant efforts. I pray:

  • You use this time to learn new skills.
  • You find joy in unemployment/underemployment.
  • You grow in your faith during this time.
  • Our loving and gracious Father bestows enough manna for your daily needs.

Remember:

12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

Now I must go chase the golden bandit (retriever) running through the house with the stinky pair of hose I threw on the floor.

Wishing you a day filled with joy,

Michele

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