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“You Must Remember This”

A few months ago, I wrote a post How The Lock Down Has Messed With My Brain. Well…let me bring you up to date on what the brain does now.

In in 1992, Joe and I saw Andrew Lloyd Webber’s musical The Phantom of the Opera in Toronto, Canada. We both loved it and enjoyed the show.

During lockdown, Andrew started a YouTube channel The Shows Must Go On where one of his musicals would be featured every weekend for 48 hours here in the United States (24 in the U.K.). As expected, one weekend Phantom was featured. It was the 25th Anniversary performance filmed at the Royal Albert Hall in 2011. Wow! What a spectacular, spectacular performance.

So I bought the film on Amazon and have watched it a lot.

Masquerade

Act two starts out with a masquerade ball at the Paris Opera House where the attendees are celebrating the new year and a new chandelier The Phantom made the old one come crashing down at the end of act one. There is a lot of singing and dancing by a company of over 100 people.

Then the Phantom makes his appearance dressed in a flaming red hat and robe and wearing a skeleton mask. He informs the managers of the opera house that he has written a new opera, Don Juan Triumphant, and expects them to perform it. The Phantom’s true love, Christine Daae is to sing the lead instead of the current soprano Carlotta Guidicelli.

Before he lights up the hall with shooting flames and disappears, he tells the managers one thing to keep in mind when deciding whether or not to have their company do the Don Juan opera.

“Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”

The Phantom in Andrew Lloyd Webber’s The Phantom of the Opera musical.
Photo by Ashwin Alok on Pexels.com

Well….

Anytime something strange happens in the world I am singing that line “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”

  • Murder Hornets – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Poisonous Blue Slugs – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Lockdowns Extended – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Slow re-openings – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Saharan Dust Clouds – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Riots – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Looting – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Murder Cops – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • Mandatory Masks – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”
  • The Constitution Shredded – “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”

Yep. Anything that happens, my mind just keeps repeating that line from Phantom. Guess it is a coping mechanism.

My Dad’s cousin was a psychiatrist in Las Vegas decades ago, he would have a field day trying to analyze my brain. He’s probably up there in heaven telling Dad “Don’t worry, Bill. Her strange brain proves she belongs in our family.”

At least I am not having anymore nightmares about murder, rape and escaping to a neighbor’s house.

No matter what happens this year, remember things could always be worse which is the true meaning of “Remember, there are worse things than a shattered chandelier.”

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, co-facilitating a grief support group, and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

“Help Me Make The Music Of The Night”

Twenty-Seven years ago tonight, Joe and I danced to The Music of the Night from Andrew Lloyd Webber’s The Phantom of the Opera.

We saw the The Phantom of the Opera in 1992 in Toronto, Canada. He loved it even though his taste in music was not musical theater but Def Leppard, AC/DC, and Depeche Mode.

I decided that the music for our bridal dance had to be something different, something other than a mushy pop love song. So I selected The Music of The Night. Joe loved the idea.

Tonight I will be enjoying an Oreo Cheesecake Blizzard from Dairy Queen as my quiet celebration of a wonderful, joyous event that happened 27 years ago.

Sarah Brightman as Christine and Michael Crawford as the Phantom (Andrew Lloyd Webber Musicals YouTube Channel)

You alone can make my song take flight.

The Music of the Night by Andrew Lloyd Webber / Charles Hart / Richard Stilgoe
June 19th, 1993

For 14 3/4 years we made each other’s song take flight as we helped each other make our own music of the night.

Thank you my dear Joe for the honor of being your wife.

I will always love you.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, co-facilitating a grief support group, and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Post #1,499 – 10 Years A Widow: Non Sum Qualis Eram

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Today is the 10th anniversary of becoming a new creation. Ten years ago this morning Joe suffered a stroke caused by a blood vessel rupturing at the base of his brain.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

2 Corinthians 5:17

I went kicking and screaming into this transformation. It is the day I came home from work, pressed the button on the answering machine and found out what Non Sum Qualis Eram truly means.

The History Behind Non 

My coworkers and I were sitting at our desks working crossword puzzles on a winter day when I worked for a savings and loan.  I do not remember the clue for the answer, but I looked up “Non Sum Qualis Eram” in the dictionary (this was BG – Before Google) and I discovered it meant

I am not what I used to be

I cracked up laughing. I told my coworker that is what I want on my tombstone – I am not what I used to be. It is true. When you die you are not what you used to be. You are a new creation.

Well, that is not what is on our marker out at the cemetery.

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Putting This Post Together

When I started putting this post together, I thought it would be how I summed up the last 10 years of being a widow instead of a wife.

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Instead, it begins a series of lessons, opinions, and observations based on my experiences during the past 10 years.  They are a mixture of good, bad, and ugly. They are intended to prepare you a teeny, tiny bit for what you may face if and when you become a widow. Because that is what I do best, educate, inspire, and train – just call me your Grief Cheerleader.

So come along with me on a journey of looking back and fondly remembering while moving forward with life as a new creation.

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Oh and if Non Sum Qualis Eram is not on our marker – what is? A line from Joe’s favorite song from The Phantom of the Opera:

Think of me, think of me fondly when we’ve said goodbye.

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Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of chocolate, red roses and golden retrievers and is an amateur photographer.

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