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Spontaneous Trait Transferance

I wrote about this last year in a post titled “Why You Should Speak Kindly Of Others.”

In light of recent events it bears repeating.

Spontaneous trait transference occurs when you say something about a person then the listener automatically and unintentionally associates the trait with you.

So if I were to say Elvis was the greatest singer and a hunk of burning love, you would automatically and unintentionally associate the phrase “greatest singer” and “hunk of burning love” with me.         😀

Watch Out!

The same is true for negative traits.  If you call me manipulative, the person who heard the comment will also automatically and unintentionally associate that trait with you.  Once the damage is done, there is no going back because the seed has been planted in the other person’s mind.

Word Association

Wouldn’t you rather be associated with the words polite, joyful, considerate and a hunk of burning love?  Then speak those and other kind words about the people God put in your life.

My Project

This is one of my self-improvement projects for the year – to only speak kindly of others.

Thank you God for helping me with this project. 

Now speaking of a hunk of burning love – here is the birthday boy himself.   (link)

Enjoy!

Why You Should Speak Kindly Of Others

(Author’s Note:  This is a lesson from “The Happiness Project Page-A-Day Calendar” by Gretchen Rubin.  You will find periodic references to her calendar through-out the year, if I feel the subject for that day needs to be brought to your attention.)

A Golden Reason

It is obvious that you should speak well of other because of the Golden Rule.  You would not want them speaking bad about you, so why would you speak bad about them?

Another Reason

The other reason comes from Gretchen Rubin’s 2012 “The Happiness Project Page-A-Day Calendar for today 1/3 –

Spontaneous Trait Transference.

“In ‘spontaneous trait transference’ people spontaneously and unintentionally associate what you say about the qualities of other people with the qualities of youIf you describe a colleague as hilarious, for example, the listener associates you with that quality.  Ever wonder why people want to kill the messenger who bring bad news?  Trait transference.”

Any questions?

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