I wrote about this last year in a post titled “Why You Should Speak Kindly Of Others.”
In light of recent events it bears repeating.
Spontaneous trait transference occurs when you say something about a person then the listener automatically and unintentionally associates the trait with you.
So if I were to say Elvis was the greatest singer and a hunk of burning love, you would automatically and unintentionally associate the phrase “greatest singer” and “hunk of burning love” with me. 😀
The same is true for negative traits. If you call me manipulative, the person who heard the comment will also automatically and unintentionally associate that trait with you. Once the damage is done, there is no going back because the seed has been planted in the other person’s mind.
Wouldn’t you rather be associated with the words polite, joyful, considerate and a hunk of burning love? Then speak those and other kind words about the people God put in your life.
This is one of my self-improvement projects for the year – to only speak kindly of others.
Thank you God for helping me with this project.