Let’s just name and claim the elephant in the room this week –
A rough day for those fresh in their grief.
For the rest of us it can still be rough if ambushed by the grief monster.
I no longer have a rough time with Valentine’s day because I decided years ago to stay home away from all the festivities, as this lessens the chances of an ambush. Would I stay home if I were dating? No, not unless I was cooking a romantic dinner for two.
Wherever you are at in your grief the best thing to do to get through Valentine’s Day is to make a plan.
Do only what you feel up to doing.
If people want to take you out to lunch see if that can be done on Friday or Sunday and avoid the chaotic restaurants on Saturday.
May Valentine’s Day be filled with joy even in the midst of your grief. Sometimes the anticipation of a holiday is worse than the holiday itself.
Here is a video I got in my email yesterday. May it be of comfort to you this week and always.
“Earth has no sorrow that heaven can’t cure.”
May you find your morning and refreshing joy today despite any scars.
The deeper sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain.
Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
In the sweetness of friendship; let there be laughter and the sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.
Weekend Wisdom for April will feature quotes from different prayers in the book “The Valley of Vision, A collection of Puritan Prayers & Devotions” by Arthur Bennett. (Here is a link to the Wikipedia page about Puritans.)
Today’s wisdom comes from the prayer “The Valley of Vision.” I am publishing this prayer in it’s entirety and can honestly say from experience, the best vision can be found in the valley.
The Valley of Vision
LORD, HIGH AND HOLY, MEEK AND LOWLY,
Thou hast brought me to the valley of vision,
where I live in the depths but see thee in the heights;
hemmed in by mountains of sin I behold thy glory.
Let me learn by paradox
that the way down is the way up,
that to be low is to be high,
that the broken heart is the healed heart,
that the contrite spirit is the rejoicing spirit,
that the repenting soul is the victorious soul,
that to have nothing is to possess all,
that to bear the cross is to wear the crown,
that to give is to receive,
that the valley is the place of vision.
Lord, in the daytime starts can be seen from deepest wells,
and the deeper the wells the brighter thy stars shine;
Let me find thy light in my darkness,
thy life in my death,
thy joy in my sorrow,
thy grace in my sin,
thy riches in my poverty
thy glory in my valley.