Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.
Now that you have made the choice to move forward with life, there are a few questions you will need to seek the answers to
- Do I do the things I did before we became a couple?
- Do I continue with the same things we enjoyed as a couple?
- Do I develop new interests?
There will be other questions that need answered depending upon your circumstances, widowed with no children, widowed with young children, and widowed with grown children.
Seeking to Triumph
You are moving forward by seeking out the answers to these and any other questions pertaining to your unique circumstances. You are seeking to triumph through adversity. The grief monster does not want you to triumph. He knows if you are stuck in the muck, other people will be even more terrified of him because they know they will be stuck like you when their spouse moves to heaven.
What Will You Do?
I am unable to tell you what to do, but when you have a quiet moment early in the morning, sit and just be still. You never know what idea might pop into your head.
Keep your eyes and ears open as you go about your day as something you see or a word you overhear someone say in a crowded coffee shop just may trigger an idea.
Clean out your closets. That is what I was doing when I came across my old film camera and decided to upgrade to a digital one.
The answers to your questions will come in a “Lightbulb Moment”, when you least expect it. “Lightbulb Moments” happen when you least expect them and they will give you answers to your questions.
Always seek out the seed of triumph in every adversity.
A special thank you to my neighbors A, B, C, D & J for creating the London fog atmosphere last year on Halloween. Also a special thank you to the spider who spun the web at the top of my porch light adding to the ambiance. 😉
Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns.com. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of her photography at OgleOhio.com.