Welcome to 31 Tricks to Scare Away The Grief Monster. This series is part of the Write31Day challenge which is held every October. As revenge for writing this series, the grief monster decided to mess with the formatting of the second half of this post. I will not let him prevent me from doing this series. I choose to write on.
I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
When your spouse, or other loved one, moves to heaven you have 2 options:
- Stay Stuck In The Muck
- Move Forward With Your Life
You need to choose which option and your choice will impact the quality of your life.
The first option is the one the Grief Monster wants you to pick. He loves it when people stay stuck. Staying stuck means you do not progress any further in your grief than Day 1. You choose to feel the intense pain and shock of Day 1 for the rest of your life. You go through a lot of mascara because it keeps running down your face when you cry all the time.
The second option makes the Grief Monster cower in fear. He does not want you moving forward with life. By moving forward I mean doing the work to determine what life looks like without your loved one.
Some questions you will ask are:
- Do I do the things I did before you became a couple?
- Do I continue with the same things we enjoyed as a couple?
- Do I develop new interests?
Choosing to move forward means you still grieve, but you work through your grief. Your time line did not end just because your husband’s did.
Choose to move forward in honor of him, knowing he is in your heart forever.
Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.Walter Anderson