I Am An Introvert And This Is What It Means


“Be still, and know that I am God; 

Psalm 46:10

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson.

When going on interviews or attending networking events, I am always told to be myself and the people I meet will love and accept me.

No they won’t.


Because I am an introvert and the world does not love or even like introverts.

Well I am here to say – I am an introvert & proud of it!


I’ve always known I was an introvert but after reading Susan Cain’s new book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, I feel free to admit it.

Susan writes

“If there is only one insight you take away from the book, though, I hope it’s a newfound sense of entitlement to be yourself.”

I do feel more entitled to be myself, I feel more relaxed, confident, and proud of who I am.

Who Am I?

I am a:

  • Thinker
  • Listener
  • Problem Solver

My Value

The value I bring to the world as an introvert is:

  • Viewing issues from different angles and viewpoints, which comes in handy when solving problems.
  • Providing a well thought out answer and avoids making quick decisions which might not consider the impact of the answer.
  • Have always been able to empathize with most people in most situations, they feel as though I understand them.  (
  • Prefers intimate one-on-one conversations.  Hey! I did a lot of one-on-one training at the bank and loved every minute of it.
  • Focus on finding meaning in events.  I believe there is a reason for events that happen in our lives. The Strength Finder people call it “connectedness.”


Susan’s book also points out:

“They have difficulty when being observed (at work, say or performing at a music recital) or judged for general worthiness (dating, job interviews).”

Mom and Dad had me enrolled in acting class when I was a youngster in hopes of helping me come out of my shell.

Then I was on the speech team and in the drama club in high school, so I am probably more comfortable than most introverts when it comes to public speaking.

Speaking of which, my degree is a Bachelor of Arts in Rhetoric and Communication.  The degree focused on public speaking as a form of communication instead of writing.

I will not comment on the dating and job interviews as this post is already getting too long. Suffice it to say those two situations are more nerve wracking for me then public speaking.

Social Events

Yes, I can and do step outside my comfort zone in social situations. I even enjoy social events, but this Cinderella turns into a pumpkin earlier in the evening than most people.

My Reason For Buying Quiet

I hoped this book would give me some ideas, words and or phrases to use for job search. It has and now to use these to my advantage in  job searching.

Are You? 

If you are an introvert, stand up, be counted and be proud.  After all according to Susan’s book up to ½ of the world are introverts.

So be yourself and let the world see just how wonderful you are.

Coming tomorrow – Introverts and Open Floor Plans.

40 Days of Joy

Changes and Suggestion Opportunity


“Be still, and know that I am God.”

Psalm 46:10

Yes, He is God and He is perfect, there is no need for him to change. 

On The Other Hand

I am not perfect, never have been and never will be. (oops, guess that is the wrong thing to say in case a potential employer reads this.)  God loves me but knows I need to change so I become the person He knows I can be.

My Changes

It’s almost one year since I starting my blog.  This blog has changed me.  My writing skills are better (but still need work), I have developed relationships with my readers, and I got my Christmas Joy back – all because of this blog. 

“Movin’ On Up”

Over the next few days I will be thinking and praying about how to take this blog to the next level and what that level will look like.

What You Will See

I can tell you t there will be a series on the book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts” by Susan Cain hopefully in February.  The release date for the book is 1/24 so as soon as I get done reading it and taking notes, there will be blog posts. Why the book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts?” because I am…INFP.  This overly extraverted world needs to know introverts are joyous and valuable people – in our own unique way.

The Continuing Adventures

Other than the “Quiet” series, there will be the continued posts about unemployment and singleness due to widowhood.  I intend on letting people know widows are not to be feared, or locked away in a dungeon.


What would you like to see in 2012?  Any particular ideas, topics or thoughts, I will consider all ideas and implement those which fit my mission:

  • Be an example of joy returning.
  • Support and encourage widows.
  • Educate those not grieving by sharing my adventures.
  • Establish and develop lasting relationships with my readers.
  • Help businesses develop a plan to support widows so they can perform at the level their job requires as quickly as possible.

Please “Express Yourself” in the comments or email me at kearnsdotmrsmichele@gmail.com


“God loves us the way we are, but too much to leave us that way.”

Leighton Ford

Coming Attraction for Wednesday – “Ah Ha!”