Merry June 25th!

Yes, 6 months from today is Christmas.

Now if you became a widow since last Christmas, I know you are dreading this one.

However, you have a chance to plan for the big day. Planning is key to surviving the holidays.

3 Ideas

Here are 3 simple ideas to keep in mind.

  • 1 – Acknowledge Christmas is 6 months from today.
  • 2 – Take comfort in knowing you only have to do what you have the strength to do during the holidays.
  • 3 – Start brainstorming what you might want to do this season.  You do not have to keep the same traditions, starting new ones are perfectly acceptable.

There Is Still Plenty Of Time

You do not have to make any final decisions today or anytime soon.

You simply need to slowly start coming to terms with that the holiday season will come again even though your spouse now resides in heaven.

And that is enough for now.

God bless the recent widows with comfort and joy. 

Coming July 25th,  “A Resource For Help With Christmas.”

40 Days of Joy

It’s NOT Just Another New Year’s Eve – Sorry Barry


“It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
Another night like all the rest.”

New Years Eve – 2008 was not like all the rest and yes it was the worst I had experienced.  I did manage to get through it but it was tough. 

Normally Joe and I would have a glass or two of champagne at midnight drinking out of monogrammed glasses I got us the first Christmas we were married.

Not this year. 

There would be no popping the cork outside on the deck, no clinking the glasses, wishing each other a Happy New Year, and no kiss. 

I felt so lonely and there was no joy in the house that night. 

Dick Clark and I are usually together on New Year’s Eve.  It was even tradition for Joe and I to watch him.  However, there was no Dick Clark in 2008 as Rommie and I were in bed by 10 p.m.


 “It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
Let’s make it the best.”

Yes, Rommie and I will make tonight the best one yet.  There will be JT’s bean dip with pita chips for an appetizer, something cooked on my new George Foreman grill, and Easy Heath Bars for dessert. 

We will be with Dick again tonight as he celebrates his 40th “New Year’s Rockin’ Eve.”  It still is not just another New Year’s Eve and never will be again.  Because tonight is another reminder that the world is made for couples and I am no longer part of a couple.  Thank God this night only comes once a year.  That fact brings me great joy.


If you are grieving the loss of a spouse this year, hang in there. You will get through it.  Go to bed early if you want. I know it is painful but you have made it this far, it is just a couple more days till January 3rd when the world will be back to normal.  Then you can breathe a sigh of relief that the holidays are over and remember, just as the song says:

“But when we’re through this New Year
You’ll see, WE’LL be just fine.”

You and I will be just fine.  Let that fact bring you joy tonight and tomorrow.


“It’s Just Another New Year’s Eve”

Don’t look so sad, it’s not so bad you know.
It’s just another night, that’s all it is,
It’s not the first, it’s not the worst you know,
We’ve come through all the rest, we’ll get through this.

We’ve made mistakes, but we’ve made good friends too.
Remember all the nights we spent with them?
And all our plans, who says they can’t come true?
Tonight’s another chance to start again.

It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
Another night like all the rest.
It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
Let’s make it the best.
It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
It’s just another Auld Lang Syne,
But when we’re through this New Year
You’ll see, WE’LL be just fine.

We’re not alone, we’ve got the world you know.
And it won’t let us down, just wait and see.
And we’ll grow old, but think how wise we’ll grow.
There’s more you know, it’s only New Year’s Eve.


Barry Manilow/Marty Panzer


Coming tomorrow – A New Year’s card from Michele and Rommie