Weekend Wisdom

New Year’s Eve Wisdom – Adelaide Anne Proctoer

I used her Thankfulness poem on Thanksgiving Day and then found a verse from today’s poem on QuoteGarden.  Thanks to Poetry Nook for the entire version.

May Adelaide’s poem speak to you this blessed night.


The Old Year’s Blessing

by Adelaide Anne Procter

I am fading from you,
But one draweth near,
Called the Angel-guardian
Of the coming year.

If my gifts and graces
Coldly you forget,
Let the New Year’s Angel
Bless and crown them yet.

For we work together;
He and I are one:
Let him end and perfect
All I leave undone.

I brought Good Desires,
Though as yet but seeds;
Let the New-Year make them
Blossom into Deeds.

I brought Joy to brighten
Many happy days;
Let the New Year’s Angel
Turn it into Praise.

If I gave you Sickness,
If I brought you Care,
Let him make one Patience,
And the other Prayer.

Where I brought you Sorrow,
Through his care, at length,
It may rise triumphant
Into future Strength.

If I brought you Plenty,
All wealth’s bounteous charms,
Shall not the New Angel
Turn them into Alms?

I gave Health and Leisure,
Skill to dream and plan;
Let him make them nobler;—
Work for God and Man.

If I broke your Idols,
Showed you they were dust,
Let him turn the Knowledge
Into heavenly Trust.

If I brought Temptation,
Let sin die away
Into boundless Pity
For all hearts that stray.

If your list of Errors
Dark and long appears,
Let this new-born Monarch
Melt them into Tears.

May you hold this Angel
Dearer than the last,—
So I bless his Future,
While he crowns my Past.



See you on Tuesday 1/2 when I will announce my Word for 2018.


christmas signatureBio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while working as a call center team leader, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. 

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It Is Still NOT Just Another New Year’s Eve (2013 Edition)


“It’s just another New Year’s Eve, 
Another night like all the rest.”

New Years Eve – 2008 was not like all the rest and yes it was the worst I had experienced.  I did manage to get through it but it was tough.

Normally Joe and I would have a glass or two of champagne at midnight, drinking out of monogrammed glasses I bought for our first Christmas.

Not this year.

There would be no popping the cork outside on the deck, no clinking the glasses, wishing each other a Happy New Year, and no kiss.

I felt so lonely and there was no joy in the house that night.

Dick Clark and I are usually together on New Year’s Eve.  It was even tradition for Joe and I to watch him.  However, there was no Dick Clark in 2008 as Rommie and I were in bed by 10 p.m.


 “It’s just another New Year’s Eve, 
Let’s make it the best.”

It still is not just another New Year’s Eve and never will be again.  Because tonight is another reminder that the world is made for couples and I am no longer part of a couple.  Thank God this night only comes once a year.  That fact brings me great joy.

However, Rommie and I will enjoy tonight and then be in bed by 10 p.m.


If you are grieving the loss of a spouse this year, hang in there.

You will get through it.

Go to bed early if you want. I know it is painful but you have made it this far, it is just a couple more days till January 2nd when the world will be back to normal.  Then you can breathe a sigh of relief that the holidays are over.

Remember, just as the song says:

“But when we’re through this New Year 
You’ll see, WE’LL be just fine.”

You and I will be just fine.  Let that fact bring you joy tonight and tomorrow.

“It’s Just Another New Year’s Eve”

Don’t look so sad, it’s not so bad you know.
It’s just another night, that’s all it is,
It’s not the first, it’s not the worst you know,
We’ve come through all the rest, we’ll get through this.

We’ve made mistakes, but we’ve made good friends too.
Remember all the nights we spent with them?
And all our plans, who says they can’t come true?
Tonight’s another chance to start again.

It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
Another night like all the rest.
It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
Let’s make it the best.
It’s just another New Year’s Eve,
It’s just another Auld Lang Syne,
But when we’re through this New Year
You’ll see, WE’LL be just fine.

We’re not alone, we’ve got the world you know.
And it won’t let us down, just wait and see.
And we’ll grow old, but think how wise we’ll grow.
There’s more you know, it’s only New Year’s Eve.


Barry Manilow/Marty Panzer


What Rommie & I Will Be Watching On New Year’s Eve

Two weeks from today, Christmas will be over. You made it through Christmas and hopefully had a wonderful time with family and/or friends.

Now it is on to New Year’s.

If you have not made plans for New Year’s Eve and Day, do so now.

New Year’s 2008

Not much to say about my New Year’s Eve celebration that year.  Rommie and I were watching the inside of our eyelids at about 9:30 that night.

In 2009 and 2010 Rommie and I stayed up but it was painful. New Year’s Eve is a couple’s night and I am no longer a couple.  So 2011 and 2012 saw Rommie and I in bed early.  

New Year’s 2013

This year will be no different. After dinner I will stretch out on the bed and read books, do some writing or maybe I will do a manicure/pedicure.

We will once again be watching the inside of our eyelids by midnight.

Your Plan

It does not matter what your plans are, just as long as you have them.  Do what you feel you have the strength to do this New Year’s Eve.

(P.S. Dad always said he was going to go watch the inside of his eyelids just before he went to bed.)

(Coming Tomorrow: “It’s Friday The 13th, Hallelujah!”)