My friend Rosalyn is starting a blog and currently is doing preliminary research. She asked me some questions about setting up and writing a blog. One of the questions was
“How has writing this blog helped in your own healing process?”
The answer – my identity has been at least partially restored.
I lost my identity when Joe passed. I no long knew who I was. What did I like? What was my favorite color? What are my hobbies? It is common for any widow to feel this way after her husband’s passing. Joe and I were married for 14 years but knew each other for 16 years. I adapted to watching a lot of TV, especially science fiction. My life revolved around him, my job, our house and Rommie. My hobbies of reading, crocheting and photography went by the wayside.
Now I had to find an answer to
…where have you come from, and where are you going?
I knew where I had come from but I had no idea where I was going, what I liked to do, wanted to do, or even should do. That was just pertaining to my personal identity. Then 1 year later, I’m headed for the unemployment line. Now I have to figure out who I am as a professional.
“Meet The New Boss,”
JoyReturns has helped me establish an identity as a blogger. OgleOhio is helping me establish an identity as a photo-blogger. Blogging is not anything I would ever have done if it were not for hearing the words “widows website” in my head one morning even before I opened my eyes.
“Same As The Old Boss”
At the bank I was the first person management ask to train new hires. This training was done one-on-one with the person sitting beside me watching me work and listening to me explain systems, policies and procedures and work with delinquent customers.
Well with JoyReturns I am still doing one-on-one training, just on a different subject and using a different delivery method.
How blogging about surviving my grief journey and extended unemployment along with photo-blogging are going to help me with my next job, well that remains to be seen.
But this I do know –
The use of this blog in getting my identity at least partially re-established has helped me heal.