Books, Resources

Awakening Your Courage and Living Victoriously In Unsettled Times

Happy 1st Day of Spring!

Well we made it through winter weather-wise. However we now find ourselves in a winter of panic over toilet paper, paper towels and hand sanitizer.

Feeling anxious, stressed-out, or down right panicked over what this Coronavirus is doing to our economy and it’s impact on your job?

Then I have 2 resources today that will help you – Fear Fighting, awakening courage to overcome your fears and Battle Ready, Train Your Mind To Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt, and Live Victoriously, both by Kelly Balarie.

I was blessed to be a member of both book launch teams. Below are mini-reviews of the books with links to my original reviews.

You need Kelly Balarie’s books. They were written for such a time as this.

Fear Fighting

Fear Fighting, awakening courage to overcome your fears is a book that will remind you that God is with you no matter what you fear. Kelly tells you how to demolish 8 fear inducers, including worry.

She points out we need to do we need to do whatever it takes to give Jesus and the Holy Spirit access to our hearts.

It is by dwelling with the Spirit that we go about abiding in the Lord.

Kelly Balarie
Fear Fighting, awakening courage to OVERCOME your fears
Pge 108

And when you abide in the Lord, fear gets the boot.

Fear Fighting, awakening courage to OVERCOME your fears – by Kelly Balarie Link to my review

Battle Ready

I am writing this mini-review after being told I will have a new position at work. Learning something new is great and I am all for it. However, it is what I will be learning that has me anxious.

When I went through the book deciding what quote to feature when I came upon these words in chapter ten.

Warrior-Mindset Ten

Say “God Can, and I will Rest in That”


Since the beginning of Lent, I have been sowing Isaiah 43:19 as my daily prayer because my life and job have seemed stale and I’ve felt stuck in the muck.

“See, I am doing a new thing!
    Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
    and streams in the wasteland.”

After today’s announcement at work, I need to work on seeing new faith in me and my abilities and faith that God knows what He is doing with my career. “God can, and I will rest in that” is going to be my mantra as I learn the ropes of this new position.

Yes, God, I see you not only doing a new thing in my life and career but also prepping me to be Battle Ready.

Battle Ready, Train Your Mind To Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt, and Live Victoriously by Kelly Balarie – Link to my reivew.

Final Thoughts

Whether it is the Coronavirus upsetting you, being quarantined with the hubby and kids for 14 days, experiencing a temporary layoff because of the virus, or some other fear, both Fear Fighting and Battle Ready will help you deal with this unsettling time.

Remember this:

The truth is you’re moving from glory to glory.

Kelly Balarie
Battle Ready, Train Your Mind To Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt, and Live Victoriously
pg 171


Rainbow Over Woods Behind House – June 2008 (photo by Michele Kearns)

The Legal Pad – All Links are non affiliate. However, I was privileged to be a part of Kelly’s launch team for both books. I did receive a free copy of Fear Fighting and Battle Ready.

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Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog


Fear Fighting by Kelly Balarie – A Review


One of my highlights in 2016 was being chosen for the launch team for Kelly Balarie’s book Fear Fighting, awakening courage to OVERCOME your fears.  The book released today.

Kelly shares personal stories and actionable tips for over coming various fears-inducers including:

  • The Devil
  • Control
  • People Pleasing
  • Worrying
  • Comparison and Competition
  • Waiting While Trembling
  • Rejection and Opposition
  • The Past

which all happen to be fears widows deal with at some point in time.

Not a Rosy Story

It was the chapter on comparison and competition that sucker punched me.  Kelly writes about comparing herself to Rosie and the story was anything but rosy.

I too compare myself to others, wanting what they have so I can be like them and fit in. Whether it was fitting in with the in-crowd in school or fitting in with society after being widowed. Widows do not fit in with society, we are chewed up and spit out on the outside of the palace gates. We are the true deplorables. (but that is a subject for another post.)

Grief and Comparison

I found myself even doing it while grieving. Everyone else got back to normal or in some cases, their lives took off in unexpected and very pleasing circumstances. Me – I was grieving. The only moving I did was to the unemployment line a year after Joe’s passing.

There is no room for comparison while you are grieving. Do not compare yourself to another widow, she make look like she has it altogether but you do not know what goes on behind closed doors.

Once you do discover the details of another widow’s grief, you will most likely decide you are blessed to be experiencing the grief hand you were dealt.

Grief and Competition

Getting through grief is NOT a competition. There is no race to see who can come out of grief the soonest, who has the easiest grief, or who comes out of it looking the most beautiful.

There was not another woman who was widowed at the same time as me, so I did not compete with anyone to see who could finish grieving first or who looked better while grieving. (fyi – you are finished grieving when you walk through the gates of heaven. Revelation 21:4)

Behold His Radiance

In the chapter Kelly also writes:

What we see as our hindrance, God sees as admittance to behold His radiance.

pg 117

Grief is your hindrance, but you will see God in all his radiant glory through the help and support friends and family provide.

And once you see His radiance, it is up to you to emit God’s radiance to others. You do not do emit radiance by comparison and competition – you do that by serving others, even while you are grieving. 

Something To Chew On

Kelly closes each chapter with a section titled Something to Chew On. These are additional thoughts for you to meditate on. My favorite from the Comparison and Competition chapter is:

“Remind me of all the bad, and I will say, “The downpours are just precursors to rainbows.”

pg 121

Group Bible Study

Included in the book is a 12-week group Bible study, or you can do it alone. I am starting the Bible study this week. It will be a great way to kick off 2017.

Final Thoughts

I’ve always said grief is life’s greatest self-improvement course. Fear Fighting is an excellent book to read and  learn how to sucker-punch any fears that arise, whether or not you are grieving.

In Excellent Company

This book is in my stack of favorite books by author’s such as Ann Voskamp, J.T. O’Donnell, Mark Batterson, and Heather Burch. As  you can see it is also one where I used a lot of sticky notes. There are also a lot of highlights and notes in the margins.


Well done Kelly, well done good and faithful servant! 

Matthew 25:21

Disclaimer: I am part of the Fear Fighting book launch team and received a free copy in exchange for my honest review. The links provided are not affiliate links and I receive no compensation when  you buy  Kelly’s book.

(Special Thank You to the Brunswick Library and the Adult Reference staff for the use of their fireplace and resources. The library served as my office for the past 4 months.)