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Unroll.me – How to Unclutter Your Email

Since for the next two weeks I will be working on behind the scenes maintenance with Writing 101 and Blogging 201 from WordPress, I decided to work on another “behind the scenes” project known as taking out the email trash.

Oh boy does my email get cluttered and it is my fault. I always need to keep learning more and more so I sign up for all sorts of newsletters and blog posts to hopefully help me be a better blogger, writer, jobseeker, networker and a better person overall.

Word for 2015

My word for this year was Thrive (and I’ve once again survived but not thrived). There were 3 words that supported “thrive” – Intentional, Simplify, and Trust.

Well yesterday I intentionally simplified by email by logging back into my Unroll.me account and deleting a lot of subscriptions to newsletter and blog posts.

It’s simple. All you have to do is create a Unroll.me account using your email and a password you remember, then it will show you all the newsletter and blog posts you have subscribed to. You simple click “unsubscribe” to anything you no longer want to receive. This is a great tool for simplifying your email inbox.

Now my email looks a lot better and yours will too.

Stay tuned for the further adventures of Michele’s “behind the scenes” life during the next two weeks.

Have a joy filled week.

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Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at OgleOhio.com.

{ Day 31 } Finale of 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – GROW

Hallelujah! We’ve both made it through the Write31Days challenge. Thank you for sticking by me through thick and thin this month. It was an rough journey for me, one that I did not expect. Here we are crossing the finish line together.

Today’s Word is

GROW!

Scripture Meditation 

I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow.

1 Corinthians  3:6

God uses your grief to grow you in your spiritual walk with Him.

You do the work, walking baby step by baby step and God uses those baby steps to grow you. You grow with every smile or wave you give someone. You grow by sitting with someone as they grieve. You grow by dreaming and crafting a new life. Every little step you take, God is using to mold you into the person He wants you to become.

That is His plan for everybody – growing your character. It is not about achievements as that is boasting. It is about who you are as a person that is important to God. He will use all sorts of life circumstances to grow you.

You can be a ditch digger but as long as you are serving God right where you are at, you are accomplishing His will for your life. If you are a motivational speaker but not helping others up to the next level in their career, you are not accomplishing His will for you.

So take baby steps every day in confidence knowing God is growing you and yes, growth is painful. But He is your comforter.

Quote Meditation 

Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.

Benjamin Franklin

Coming Tomorrow – Final Thoughts About This Series and How I Made It Through the First Halloween Without Rommie

{ Day 30 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – SCATTER

Scripture Quote

18 yet I will rejoice in the Lord,
    I will be joyful in God my Savior. 

Habakkuk 3:18 

Be joyful in God your savior during your grief journey. Be joyful because God enables you to Climb Every Mountain the grief monster puts in your path. Yes, climbing is easier said than done but you will make it to the top. Maybe it returns quickly and maybe it does not come back until you reach the peak.

When it does there will be a spring in your step and a smile on your face.

Once you feel joy again it is your responsibility to scatter it, because there is not enough joy in this world. Scatter it by being generous with your hugs, smiles, waves, laughs, and love.

Petal Quote

How will you choose to scatter joy?

Quote Meditation

Scatter Joy

Ralph Waldo Emerson 

10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at OgleOhio.com, where she is running the series 31 Days of Autumn in Ohio – because running a 31 Day series on one blog is not enough insanity.

{ Day 29 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – Laugh!

The finish line is in sight!  Only a few more days.

Today’s word is

LAUGH!

You will laugh again at some point during your grief journey. Joe’s nieces and nephew laughed at the funeral home when I confirmed their uncle loved Yanni and would air guitar, drum and any other instrument while listening to Yanni. Their dad told them but they did not believe him. Laughter made a painful situation a little easier to bear – even if only for a moment.

Laughter puts the grief monster in his place. It shows him that you will not go down without a fight. Laughter is just as healing as tears. Sharing funny stories brings back fond memories and gives you something to which to cling. It helps you focus solely on the good the deceased did and not remember the bad memories.

Remember to bring laughter back into your life after your spouse’s passing.

Watch this clip from the movie Mary Poppins if you need a good laugh today.

Quote Meditation 

I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.

Robert Fulghum

{ Day 28 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – STRUGGLE

Welcome everyone, (except the remnants of Patricia) to Day 28. Patricia gave Northeast Ohio a good soaking last night and today. I thought she was done but it looks like she is gearing up for round two.

Today’s word is

STRUGGLE

Scripture Quote

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Ephesians 6:12

Now you might think struggle is a weird trick for getting through grief. Struggling implies movement, lots of movement and lots of energy being used up. You are lifting up your feet, one at a time attempting to make forward progress through the muck. Unlike the Cleveland Browns, you will make forward progress through the muck and mire the grief monster brought to your life. (I can pick on the Browns because I am a die hard fan.)

The best thing to do when struggling is to be honest about it with God and close family or friends, because honesty is the best policy – even in grief.

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My Struggles

I’m struggling today, struggling to get through this 31 day writing challenge. Oh, it seemed like an excellent idea back in June. Now I do not want to finish it but I will because the grief monster will not prevent me from helping others. That is what I feel is going on and probably has been going on during this challenge.

My job search is another struggle. Now I did have a great interview yesterday (at least I thought it was great) but I should be posting on LinkedIn, sharing other people’s content and reaching out to connect with people. But (there’s always a but) for this job search, I really do not care about doing those actions.

I want away from the computer and out and around people. Where do I go? People my age are married or are in dating relationships and have their own group of friends.

So you see I am struggling, just in a different way from when Joe moved to heaven.

I leave you with the following quote meditation from Napoleon Hill…and it was not a struggle to find this appropriate quote. I Googled quotes about struggle and there it was on BrainyQuote.com.

Enjoy!

Quote Meditation 

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.

Napoleon Hill

10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at OgleOhio.com, where she is running the series 31 Days of Autumn in Ohio – because running a 31 Day series on one blog is not enough insanity.

{ Day 27 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – CRAFT!

Welcome to Terrific Tuesday!

Today’s trick is

CRAFT

You dreamed and prayed about those dreams yesterday. Now it is time to craft your new life. This may or may not involve actual crafts ( scrapbooking, crocheting, sewing etc…) Craft your new life one day at a time. Don’t wait till you are through grief to start your new life.

It takes bravery to craft a new life and start working on it. But you are brave, you are brave because you tackled the grief monster head on. You work day in and day out to keep moving through the muck on your grief journey. You do this to honor the memory of your husband.

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It is for the brave and for the crafty. It is for those women who realize they were given an opportunity to find a new purpose in life, to use the purpose to make the world a little bit better than they found it. An opportunity that would not have existed if you were still married.

Your timeline did not end.

Now bravely go craft a new life, but before you do watch this video from Annie F. Downs. I watched it early Sunday morning and boy did it speak to me.

I look forward to hearing what you are doing with your new opportunity.

Resources: 

Let’s All Be Brave: Living Life With Everything You Have  Annie F. Downs

The Good Life  Kaitlyn Bouchillon (Where I found Annie’s speech on Sunday morning).

10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at OgleOhio.com, where she is running the series 31 Days of Autumn in Ohio – because running a 31 Day series on one blog is not enough insanity.

{ Day 26 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – DREAM!

Welcome and Happy Monday! We are in the homestretch of 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster. T -5 days and counting.

Scripture Meditation

But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

Matthew 19:26

Today’s word is

DREAM

There will come a time in your grief when you need to figure out what your life is now going to be about. When the time comes go ahead and dream.

But don’t just dream – DREAM BIG!

I am currently attending a women’s Bible study and we are viewing The Circle Maker video’s. Oh my dear widowed friend, get this book, video and study guide by Mark Batterson. In the videos he discusses dreaming big and boldly. God is the God of big dreams, of bold dreams. No dream is too big or too bold for God.

Once you figure out what you want your life to look like, make a list and draw a circle around the entire list or one particular item. Then set aside time every day and pray about your dream. Do this for 21 days and see what happens. At best it comes true, at worst you have a greater sense of peace because you have established a prayer commitment.

My Dream

My dream is:

  • keep this house
  • remodel this house
  • have a job where I make what Joe was making or better
  • become Mom to another golden retriever daughter (or son)
  • have the resources (hardware, software, design etc…) to take this blog to the next level
  • keep my good health
  • have the strength to keep pursuing my dreams
  • have friends who will help lift me up to the next level and to gather around the table with

All these small dreams and more make up the big, bold dream I call “My Life.”

My dream has not come true in the 12 days I’ve been doing this, but I feel a greater sense of peace in my life and that is an answer to a prayer. A prayer revolving around Psalm 27:3

Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. 

So do not fear praying to God for your big, bold dream. He loves you and wants to hear not only what your needs are but He also wants to know what dreams are on your heart.

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Quote Meditation

Bold prayers honor God, and God honors bold prayers. God isn’t offended by your biggest dreams or boldest prayers. He is offended by anything less. If your prayers aren’t impossible to you, they are insulting to God.

Mark Batterson

The Circle Maker

Resources: 

Links: – MarkBatterson.com

 The Circle Maker: Praying Circles Around Your Greatest Dreams and Biggest Fears

10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at OgleOhio.com, where she is running the series 31 Days of Autumn in Ohio – because running a 31 Day series on one blog is not enough insanity.

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