Does it feel like you’ve been in a war with the grief monster ever since your spouse passed away and left you alone?
Well of course it does.
However, you live in the United States of America.
You live in the best country for widows to move forward with life. You have freedom and opportunities women in other countries are are not afforded. Opportunities for a better life are all around you and if you do not see opportunities – then create them.
But first you have to declare your independence from the grief monster.
Here are some book recommendations to help you through your grief, whether you are a widow or grieving the loss of a friend or family member.
These are books I have read. While I highly recommend all of these, please wait about 4 weeks after your spouse or other loved one’s passing before starting to read any or all. This was the advice given to me by Joe’s aunt.
Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief – Martha Whitmore Hickman – Small book containing devotions and quotes by various people such as Ann Morrow Lindberg, Alfred Tennyson, Helen Keller and various Bible verses. Even though it contains Bible verses, this book is not geared towards any one religion. Ms. Hickman used her grief experience to write an excellent book that helped me work through my grief. I have also given this book to others who find themselves on a grief journey. The book has five-stars and 3,583 ratings on Amazon.
When my first blog post went live 10 years ago today, I was not sure JoyReturns would be around to celebrate 1 year let alone ten. In fact, I was skeptical it would last six months.
Well, here we are 10 years later. Pretty good for someone who always thought her writing stunk because of it’s casual tone. God gifted me with the ability to write informally because He knew I would become a blogger. Writing about grief does not need to be done in a formal, stuffy manner like CEO’s, lawyers and other business professionals.
JoyReturns started as a way to provide encouragement to widows that their joy would return and to support them as they journeyed through grief. The best way for me to do help them was to share my adventures as I worked through grief, unemployment and whatever else came my way. Hopefully, not only would my readers be encouraged by my journey but they would get a laugh or two.
Also, I hoped sharing my adventures would show society widows do move forward with life and that we are not scary creatures with cooties.
God used my words to reach people in 165 countries and I was privileged to hear from widows about how they found the inspiration to move forward with building a new life. Other people reached out about how I gave them a better understanding of widowhood and how to help their friends and/or family members that were suddenly widowed.
So thank you God for how you have used JoyReturns so I could accomplish my vision
“…That henceforth I may be the salt of the earth and a blessing to all.”
Regeneration – prayer from The Valley Of Vision, A Collection of Puritan Prayers & Devotions – edited by Arthur Bennett
In 10 years the world has drastically changed. I do not understand the world and will not try to figure it out but simply turn it over to God. He is still on His throne and still in charge – Hallelujah!
Last year, I was planning on a big blowout of a party. However, with all the insanity of 2020 carrying over into 2021, it will just be a quiet night with a Dairy Queen Blizzard.
What does the future hold for JoyReturns, that remains to be seen. God whispered in my year “widow’s website” early one morning, so I am praying for God’s guidance. Nothing I thought of last year, newsletter, podcast, printables etc seemed right.
I will republish older posts in addition to Weekend Wisdom and new content.
Whatever comes our way this year, God willing I will still be pursuing my vision of being both the salt of the earth and a blessing to all.
Thank you my dear friends for coming on this journey with me. Your friendship these past 10 years means more than you know.