My friend Ferree, from WidowsChristianPlace.com, posted One Widows Story: Widowhood Is Not A Mere Problem To Solve an article written by Lynda, one of Ferree’s Facebook friends.
The article tells the story about Lynda reading The Undistracted Widow, Living For God After Losing Your Husband by Carol W. Cornish. The book shed new light on being a widow – it is not a problem, but a calling.
Wow! I understand that Joe’s timeline ended and mine did not, however I would have never used the word “calling” to describe being a widow. Calling is what happens to men and women who become pastors.
I was intrigued by the concept, and used my Amazon gift card from last Christmas to order the book. (Yes, it is mid-April and I still have an Amazon gift card from last Christmas.)
Once it arrived I looked at the table of contents and was intrigued by Appendix 2 – The Local Church and Its Widows. Ms. Cornish nails the topic and opened my eyes to a different way of seeing churches (more on that later).
I’ve since started reading from the beginning and a full review of The Undistracted Widow will be published once I finish it.
A Nun Named Maria
Are you a nun named Maria?
Then we are not a problems to be solved.
For some reason we were called to be widows, called for such a time as this. Now how are we going to glorify God in this season of our lives?
And who knows whether you have not come to the kingdom for such a time as this?
Welcome to June!
I suggested to my friend J.T. O’Donnell that she come up with a Summer reading list for those in transition or whose career needs a boost.
Then, I decided I better take my own advice and create a joyful reading list. So here my suggestions for summer reading.
I have read all books and receive no kickbacks from anyone for putting their book on the list.
Perfect Kindle reading for the beach or hammock – none were over $5.00 when this post was written on 5/31.
- “The Second Chance Café” (A Hope Springs Novel) Alison Kent – Kaylie Flynn goes back home and buys her foster parent’s house and plans to turn it into a Café. (I am currently reading the next installment “Beneath the Patchwork Moon.”)
- “Penelope” (A Madcap Regency Romance) (The Fairweather Sisters) Anya Wylde – Country girl attempts to fit into London high society during the debutante season. I dare you not to fall in love with Lady Bathsheba.
- “The Wicked Wager” (A Regency Murder Mystery & Romance) Anya Wylde – “Oh what a tangled web we weave” describes this lighthearted tale about love, deception and murder.
- “Seeking Philbert Woodbead” (A madcap Regency Romance) (The Fairweather Sisters) Anya Wylde – A madcap tale of Penelope’s sister Celine trying to run a mansion and find her long-lost poet lover.
(I started reading Anya’s books based on the recommendation of Charissa at Joy In The Moments.)
Whether Bible study is on the beach or in your church’s yard under a big old shade tree, you can’t go wrong with these books.
- “Postcards from the Widows’ Path, Gleaming Hope and Purpose from the Book of Ruth”, Ferree Hardy. This book combines a study of the book of Ruth with Ferree’s first-hand account of her journey down the widow’s path. However, it is not just for widows. It is a great education for anyone looking to learn more about the book of Ruth and what it takes to survive widowhood.
- “Choose Joy, Because Happiness Isn’t Enough”, Kay Warren – Happiness is not enough. I know happy people and they are very one dimensional (more on that in another post). This book helps you get to know Jesus both as a man of joy and sorrow. She also teaches that the joy found in the Bible is not dependent upon circumstances – Hallelujah!
Book Club/Cooking Club
There you have it – my joyful reading list for this summer. I am in the process of reading a few more books, so you just might find a second reading list later this summer.
I got the idea for this post from Ferree Hardy at WidowsChristianPlace.com. Her blog is wonderful and the book “Postcards from the Widow’s Path” is a great study on the book of Ruth and how God never leaves widows. It is one of my top 5 favorite books and I do need to re-read it.
Earlier this week Ferree posted an article about meeting a woman who said it felt like she was cut in half when her husband passed. Ferree knew what she was talking about because she felt the same way.
However, I never felt that way.
The Feeling I Felt
Instead I was too focused on the grinding of my heart by death. It felt like my heart was a jawbreaker (a.k.a. Everlasting Gobstopper) and that death put my heart in a mortar and was using the pestle to grind my heart 24/7, like a pharmacist would do in mixing up a fresh batch of medicine.
The only catch is like a jawbreaker, my heart never got any smaller. It was a slow, constant, rhythmic grinding that caused an intense pain. No matter how much death ground my heart, it stayed the same size.
I was aware of this grinding the moment I stared to wake up in the morning until the last second of consciousness before sleep took over my brain.
No Right Or Wrong Way
Not everyone will feel what I did and not will everyone feel cut in half. I suppose there are widows out there who felt or are feeling something totally different from Ferree and me.
And that’s alright because each person and their grief are unique.