{ Day 7 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – Dance

Scripture Meditation

Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp.

Psalm 149:3 

Dance is my favorite form of exercise. There is nothing like cranking up the disco music and dancing around the house. Yes, I am a Disco Diva. Long live the BeeGees!

I can still cut a mean 7-step hustle, just not in 6″ stilettos.           😉

Dancing is exercise in disguise and “That’s The Way I Like It – uh huh, uh huh.”

Now you do not have to be a Disco Diva, you can get out the saddle shoes and “Stroll” down memory lane.

Like all exercise, just start out slow by dancing to one short song and increase the amount of dancing every day. Use the mop or a sweeper as your partner. Get creative and dance your stress and grief away.

Mental Dance

Now for the tough dance – the mental one.

Yes, you are learning a new dance emotionally and the grief monster is your partner. There is no one better at stepping on toes than Griefy.

Moving forward means you must learn this dance. Start off nice and easy and pretty soon you will be leading Griefy and stepping on his toes. Oh what joy that will bring you.

You can learn this dance with grief but in order to do so you must choose to learn it and practice, practice, practice.


Today’s resource was an immense help to me after Joe passed. His Aunt gave it to me at the wake with instructions not to open the package until after 4 weeks. The book inside the envelope was

Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman.

It is a non-denominational devotional that will help you through this mental dance with grief. I can not recommend this book enough. I wish funeral homes would give this out to family members or send it to them about a month later.

Quote Meditation

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.

Alan Watts


Movin’ & Groovin’ Monday: Katrina And The Waves

Welcome to a new series: “Movin’ and Groovin’ Monday.”  Each week you will find a snappy little video that will get you up and moving. Here is the link to last week’s video and post which inspired me to create this series.  Get ready for a “religious” experience of the 60’s kind. 

Grieving? Don’t Make This Mistake

During my first year of widowhood, I spent most weekends on the couch so I had enough energy to get through the next work week.  That was a mistake. While rest is necessary so is moving.  I would put a load of laundry in the washer and it would take me 3 hours to get up enough energy and desire to go put it in the dryer. Even if you dance only 5 minutes a day – DANCE! You will feel better. Then dance a little more each day and eventually you will be “Walking On Sunshine.”

In Transition? Don’t Make This Mistake

The one thing us job seekers are good at doing is negative self talk (a.k.a NST). I know it is easier to say quit doing it than it is to do it. Just when you get the NST eliminated, friends or family step in and bombard you with negative comments or ask you all sorts of questions about your job search.

So to you my fellow job seekers I say, listen to the up tempo music and “shake your groove thing.” It will help keep the NST down. Play an uptempo cd on your way to an interview to fill your mind with positive thoughts. When you get out of your car – strike a power pose and tell yourself “I WILL rock this interview.” Remember, you too will soon be “Walking On Sunshine.”


Here is this weeks video – enjoy! May you walk on sunshine all week.


How To Become A Better Lover

Work like you don’t need the money.

Love like you’ve never been hurt.

Dance like nobody’s watching.

Satchel Paige 

My friend Jennifer Chernisky posted this quote on Facebook back in December.  As soon as I read the quote, I knew there was a blog post waiting to be written.

At first I thought the quote was good advice, but then I got to thinking about

“Love like you’ve never been hurt.”

And I realized that is not good advice – in my humble opinion.

“I’m So Hurt”

You learn from being hurt.

Your love improves from being hurt because

  • You know what not to do.
  • You know what to do differently.

So you can love better the next time.

As a result of your hurt, work like you do not need money and dance like no one is watching but…

Love like you have been hurt, hurt more than once.

Use being hurt to become a better lover.