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A Simple Way To Live Out James 1:27

There is nothing wrong with adopting a needy family this time of year. However, there is a forgotten group of people that need adopting – widows.

My Mom and I agree the life of a widow is lonely because friends leave you once your spouse moves to heaven.

They leave for various reasons including:

  • They do not know how nor do they want to know how to help you.
  • The wife feels threatened.  She believes you are going after her husband.
  • They believe you have “cooties” and their spouse will pass away if they associate with you.
  • They were friends with your spouse before you came into his life and only became friends with          you because of him. Now that he is gone, they no longer feel the need to be around you.

Both Mom and I have made new friends, but it is still a lonely life when you are the 3rd wheel.

So if you know of a widow at least send her a card to let her know someone cares and is thinking about her. It is a simple way to live out James 1:27.

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

One New Reason Friends Abandon You

While enjoying the company of friends one night, the subject of “friends” abandoning you after your spouse dies came up.   In the conversation someone brought up a 4th reason why this happens.

Review

For those of you new here, let me review the reasons abandonment happens:

1)      They do not know how nor do they want to know how to help you.

2)      The wife feels threatened.  She thinks you are going after her husband next.

3)     If friends are around a widow they may feel as though, they will catch “cooties” and their spouse will die.

The New One

4)     They were already friends with your spouse before you came into the picture and only became friends with you because of him. Now that he is gone, they no longer feel the need to be around you.

Not Right

Now this does not make it right that they stop being friends, but it is just another insight as to why people abandon you.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com