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The Only Resource for “Discovering Love Online” (review)

Preparing Yourself For The Adventure

So you’ve decided to take the plunge and enter the world of online dating but have heard horror stories from friends and family that would cause Stephen King to have nightmares. Plus you do not know where to begin as there are so many dating sites your head spins like a merry-go-round.

Discovering Love Online: Love May Be Closer Than You Think: (Find the Love of Your Life Through Online Dating) by [Miller, Chuck]

Then Discovering Love Online, Love May Be Closer Than You Think by Chuck Miller is the practical resource you need in preparing for an enjoyable, successful adventure. In addition to his online dating experience, which led to him find his current wife Deb, Chuck was a singles ministry director for a number of years. His book is not only based on experience but a lot of research as well.

Chuck takes the guesswork out of what to do and where to begin. He does this by assuming you know nothing so he covers the basics, including grooming, manners, first impressions, and where to go on dates among numerous other topics.

He has a Master of Divinity degree so his Christian faith is mentioned throughout the book. Miller explains how his beliefs apply to dating and why his conservative values will help you when it comes time to meet someone in person.

While the book is filled with advice about online dating, it is also filled with age-old adages that are still true.

Where Do I Begin?

You begin at the very beginning with the age-old adage:

“Know Thy Self.”

Socrates

Because how can you know what to look for in a spouse if you do not know who you are, what you like and what your goals are in life. Part of this process may include personality assessments and even considering the advantages and disadvantages of staying single. There is nothing wrong with staying single as God designed everyone differently.

Part of the process of knowing yourself is determining your list of non-negotiables. These are items that are deal makers or breakers.

For example, potential non-negotiables could include: faith, whether someone is an animal lover, the political party they are affiliated with, are they a smoker or a drinker, and do they believe in tipping the pizza driver well.

This is just a partial list what could be non-negotiables. Your list of non-negotiable items will be different from anyone else’s since we are all unique individuals.

Paid vs Free

Another age-old adage that is still true today is:

You get what you pay for.

Chuck provides a brief summary and pros and cons, starting with Chemistry and ending with Zoosk, to help you determine which one is right for you. He does recommend choosing a paid site because people on those sites tend to be looking for long-term relationships.

Without passing judgment, the clientele on paid services tend to be more earnest in their efforts and more thorough and accurate in creating their profiles. I’ve experienced it first hand and so have many others seeking love online.

Chuck Miller
Discovering Love Online, Love May Be Closer Than You Think
pg 47


This is the person with whom you hope to spend the rest of your life.

Honesty Is The Best Policy

Once you’ve chosen a site, Chuck even tells you how to set up a winning profile. This includes what information to share and what not to share, photograph advice, answering questionnaires, and storytelling advice for your profile summary.

It is true today as it ever has been:

Honesty is the best policy.

There is no room for embellishment or flat out lying in your profile. It will come back to haunt you at some point in time. Be honest in who you are and what you do.

Also, he mentions that incomplete profiles are also not acceptable. Photo’s need to be there and be current, profile questions answered and basic information filled in.

Your dating profile is your online dating resume. You may wince and groan, but it is true. “Interviews” are granted based on the information contained in your profile. So if you do not want to end up in the shred pile, fill out your profile completely.

Not Just For Scouts

Chuck admits there are risks involved in meeting people you met online and encourages you to be extremely careful selecting people to meet offline.

However, he acknowledges these risks apply to people you are introduced to by friends, family or that you meet in the produce section or any other public place.

He also gives you tips on what to look for to determine a possible unsavory character whether they intend to take your money, cause physical or emotional harm.

So whether you choose online dating or meeting someone the old fashioned way –

Be Prepared.

Be prepared for anything. Have friends or family at the same coffee shop if you choose to meet there. You can never be too careful.

The Tip of the Iceberg

This is just a tiny bit of advice covered in Discovering Love Online. This book will help prepare you to find that special someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.

Chuck did a wonderful job combining his faith, age-old adages, and advice in his book. I highly recommend this book if you or anyone you know are considering online dating. If you have any questions, his information is listed below.

Doubting Thomas?

Still not sure if this book is for you? Then check out The Do’s and Don’t of Successful Online Dating –  FREE through Valentine’s Day. It is a 38-page Kindle booklet that will help jump-start your search, give you an idea of the author’s writing style and information that you will find in Discovering Love Online. $2.99 through Valentine’s Day (Kindle).

Additional Resources

Website: Discovering Love Online

Propeller Cap, LLC | Independent Publishing With A Unique Spin

Blog: Discovering Love Online

Chuck’s Amazon Author’s page

The Legal Stuff

Author’s Note: Chuck Miller and I met when he attended GriefShare after his first wife’s death. I’ve seen him go from mourning to joy and that joy includes finding his current wife Deb (an absolute sweetheart) via online dating.

Disclaimer: I purchased the Kindle version and was given a free autographed copy of the book in exchange for an honest review. All links are non-affiliate.

Last Day for Free Copy of Discovering Love Online by Chuck Miller

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Today is the last day to get your FREE copy of Discovering Love Online: Love Maybe Closer Than You Think: (How to Find the Love of Your Life Online). At the stroke of midnight, the price will be $7.99 for the Kindle version.

It is a pleasure to write posts about this book because I saw Chuck struggle with his grief and wonder what God was doing with his grief. Well, I believe the book Discovering Love Online and its companion website is the good work God had in mind for Chuck.

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose

Romans 8:28

#1 vs #2

I heard from Chuck last night and he has reached the #2 spot in Love and Romance but the number of downloads slowed so he is now at the #5 spot. Downloads are what matters in determining rankings and not the number of people who read a book. I never knew that fact.

The goal is to reach #1 in downloads because per Chuck:

It makes a big difference to reach #1 compared to #2, in prestige as well as long-term rankings.

When you are starting a new business, you need all the help and prestige you can get.

My Copy

I’ve started reading my copy and with the winter storm about to make the weather awful (rain turning to ice, turning to 6 – 12 inches of snow), this weekend will be a perfect time to cozy up on the couch with a blanket and a hot beverage after work and read more. I have a lot to learn about online dating and trust Chuck’s advice.

Last Call!

So grab your copy today while it is still FREE! After reading it, please leave a review for Chuck. I know he would love to hear your feedback.

You can download the Kindle App for your iOS, Android, Mac, and PC here.

Blessings

Thank you, Chuck, for taking Deb’s suggestion to heart and stepping out in faith in this new direction for your life. May God bless you with the downloads you need to reach #1 in the Love and Romance category, may God bless this new coaching business and may you and Deb enjoy many more years of marital bliss.

The Lord bless you and keep you;
the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you;
the Lord lift up his countenance[a] upon you and give you peace.

Numbers 6:24-26

(ESV)

Photo courtesy of Shelby Deeter at Unsplash.com

 

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of chocolate, red roses and golden retrievers and is an amateur photographer.

How An Author Turns Misfortune Into (Fresh) Hope

(Note from Michele: I am pleased to introduce you to local author Nanci Gravill and her book “Fresh Hope … Cleveland: Resources to Help You Navigate Through Unsettled Times.” (Link to Order Form)   We were introduced to each other by Chuck Miller, a mutual friend.  Thanks Chuck!

Enjoy this article about Nanci and her book.  There is a link to her website where you can order a signed copy.

I am reading the Kindle version, so coming tomorrow will be a post regarding my thoughts on Nanci’s book.  I will tell you this much – I wish I had this book when Joe passed.)

How An Author Turns Misfortune into Hope

Local resident Nanci J. Gravill has written her first book entitled Fresh Hope … Cleveland: Resources to Help You Navigate through Unsettled Times.

“What’s It All About…Alfi?”

In this one-of-a-kind comprehensive workbook and guide, Nanci shares information and the successful strategies that helped her navigate through five years of difficulties. People think because she had breast cancer her book’s about cancer. “Oh no!” Nanci tells them astonishingly. Fresh Hope … Cleveland is all about the great things she discovered along her journey. It’s all about RESOURCES.

“We Have Nothing To Fear”

As the summary on the back cover states, sometimes in life it’s a good thing we don’t know what’s ahead. Through a series of events, Nanci lost everyone and everything in her life. It all started with breast cancer in late 2003. As she began to recover from this Job-like experience, unable to return to her temporary teaching position, Nanci was forced to live off all of her investments and retirement money. Instead of giving into fear, she called countless community agencies and used her creativity to come up with other ways to stretch the money she had left. She also found healthy ways to deal with her emotions and cope with her circumstances. Above everything else, she put her trust in God.

“Everywhere Around The World”

While the title mentions Cleveland, Fresh Hope … Cleveland can be helpful to anyone even if you live in Australia or Idaho. That’s because the text gives a variety of ideas and points you in the right direction. These ideas will open up your mind to new opportunities and possibilities available right in your own backyard. With only a few pages of things just for Cleveland, Google any specific resource to find it in your community.Nonetheless, Fresh Hope … Cleveland offers inventive ways to manage life’s challenges along with money-saving tips, healthcare services, job and mortgage information, creative and healthy living ideas, financial boundaries, how to feel your best emotionally and much more. Nanci’s book is a “fresh” and hopeful solution to today’s poor economy and the circumstances it has created for many.  It’s simple.  Fresh Hope … Cleveland provides wisdom at a time when it’s needed most.

About Nanci

Ms. Gravill has enjoyed writing in public relations, corporate communications, marketing, as a contributing writer for Northern Ohio Live magazine, ghost writer in sales, and created/sold her own handmade greeting cards. She also enjoyed teaching language arts to middle and high school-aged students. Nanci has a Bachelor of Arts degree in Promotional Communications and three years towards a Bachelor of Arts degree in Individual and Family Development (social work minor).

Get Your Signed Copy

Fresh Hope … Cleveland published by WestBow Press, a division of Thomas Nelson Publishers, is available in both eBook ($3.99) and print versions ($19.99). While the Cuyahoga County Public Library system just purchased several copies of Fresh Hope … Cleveland, signed copies from the author can be purchased off the “Order” tab on her blog at nancigravill.wordpress.com, local book signings/classes, westbowpress.com, Amazon.com, Strongsville Family Christian Bookstore, and through order at your local bookstore (ISBN-10:1449730116 and ISBN-13: 978-1449730116).

Meet & Greet Nanci In Person

Nanci will be teaching a free class from her book in Broadview Heights on Friday, September 7. She’ll also be speaking at the Gathering Place on October 25. Registration is required. To learn more about the book and upcoming book signings and events, visit Nanci’s blog at nancigravill.wordpress.com.

Guest Post – “Parting Is Such Sweet Sorrow”

(Author’s Note:  It is an honor and privilege to have my fellow Griefshare Facilitator Chuck Miller write the first guest post.  He sent this as an email to his friends and after reading it, I emailed him asking if I could use it for today’s post. Thank you Chuck for allowing me to post your letter.)

Joy & Pain Coexist

Until recently, I never really understand how the contradictory ideas of Shakespeare’s line from Romeo and Juliet, “Parting is such sweet sorrow,” could so intricately coexist. Not until this past year. We experience many partings in our lives. Some are temporary, ended, if only briefly, by a sweet reunion with those we love. Time and distance, work and family, a myriad of responsibilities all unfold upon us making it difficult to stay as connected as we would like. But joyously, the day comes when we re-gather and enjoy each other’s company, most often at holidays and special occasions.

Permanent Partings

Other partings, however, are more permanent, at least on this side of eternity. We endure the loss of those most precious to us, separations with no immediate promise of a heartfelt reunion, and partings painfully magnified by the holidays and the memories that flood upon us of what we once called our own, now forever gone. Death invades and claims those we hold dear, those we cherish. It snatches them from our lives, but never from our hearts or minds.

Sweet Parting

What makes this parting sweet, as sorrowful and devastating as it can be for us, is the knowledge that, one day, we will reunite. Today, as we recapture the narratives of our lives, the times spent cheerily together, we unearth a treasure of hopes and dreams we can still cling to in anticipation of the future. Not the ones we carefully planned together, but those God has gloriously prepared for us. When the last chapter of our story here is complete and the book is closed, we’ll meet once more and hold each other close, as we join our loved ones in heaven.

Our Hope

That’s our hope when we know Christ as our Lord and savior, when we have placed our faith in him to save us from our sins. And, that’s the reason we celebrate Christmas, his coming to earth to be born to live and to die … for us. “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” (Isaiah 9:6) It’s the hope we grasp tightly, especially so as we recount his gift on our behalf during the Christmas season. As much as the absence of those we cherished pains us, we can look forward to a sweet reunion to come. We cling to this truth amid our present loss and sorrow, as memories of days past with our loved ones rush upon our minds and hearts, and as their absence cuts to our souls.

One Day

For now, they live in our memories and hearts alone, but some day we will all live victoriously together. One day, the sorrow, loss, tears and parting will be forever erased … the day we gather together in the “sweet by and by” with Christ and all those precious, irreplaceable souls, our loved ones who have journeyed on ahead.

My Wish

Amid your own pains and losses this Christmas, in the quiet moments of reflection the season brings, I wish for you the peace that only God can give and the hope of a bright and triumphant future. Merry Christmas!

Chuck 
 
 

Bio

Chuck Miller, a graduate of Baptist Bible College and Grace Theological Seminary, has filled pastoral roles at several churches, is a technology journalist and currently serves as a facilitator in GriefShare. Look for more of Chuck’s ramblings at his forthcoming website Nerd of God (nerdofgod.org), launching in early 2012. He presently resides in Brunswick, Ohio and shares his home with a large collection of dust bunnies.