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Humor Is A Sign Of Superiority

“Once upon a midnight dreary as I pondered weak and weary”

Edgar Allan Poe

As I write this post, it is not midnight but 9 p.m.  But I did come across a quotation I found interesting and after some pondering, decided to share it with you.

“Humor is an affirmation of dignity, a declaration of man’s superiority to all that befalls him.”

Romain Gary

My Interpretation

God gave us humor as a positive tool for use in dealing with the curve balls life  throws our way.  It is a sign of our superiority over death, illness, and other nasty life events, because finding humor in a situation is like finding the silver lining behind a black cloud.

It is also a sign that God deems us worthy of victory over evil when it enters our life.


Now I can hear some of you saying “There is no humor in death.”  You are right death is not funny.  Joe’s death was not funny.  However, our family gathered at Joe’s brother’s house for dinner the day of the funeral and everyone sat around the dining room table remembering Joe and the funny antics he did during his life.  There was a lot of humor and laughter and as a result, our healing from grief started that night.

So even in our darkest hour, there was humor.  If there had not been humor that night, death would have killed us too.

My Prayer

Thank you gracious heavenly father for creating humor and giving us the ability to laugh, even in our darkest hour.  May everyone of us realize  humor is a sign that you consider us worthy – worthy of victory even when we are weak and weary.  In Jesus name – Amen.

May you be blessed with lots of humor and laughter this weekend, whether times are good or bad. 

(Author’s note:  This post was inspired by Barbara Ann Kipfer’s “8,789 Words of Wisdom.”  On page 457 I found the statement “Humor is an affirmation of dignity.” and decided to research that statement.)

Sudden – “That Which Has Come Stealthily”

Merriam-Webster.com defines sudden as:

1 a : happening or coming unexpectedly <a sudden shower>

Wiktionary.org lists the etymology of the word as:

From Middle English sodain, from Anglo-Norman sodein, from Old French sodainsubdain (“immediate, sudden”), from Vulgar Latin *subitānus (“sudden”), from Latin subitaneus (“sudden”), from subitus (“sudden”, literally, “that which has come stealthily”), originally the past participle of subire (“to come or go stealthily”), from sub (“under”) + ire (“go”).

“That Which Has Come Stealthily”

  •  A 2 a.m. phone call from the highway patrol.
  • Someone collapses because of a stroke while at dinner with their spouse.
  • A wife comes home from work and presses the answering machine button and listens to a message from the rehab doctor stating her spouse “has taken sick” and she needs to get in there right away. (been there, done that, it sucks.)

Those are 3 very different circumstances all with one thing in common – suddenness.

 No Warning Shot

There was no warning Thursday night when I last saw Joe alive and well, that the next morning blood vessels at the base of his brain would rupture causing a stroke. I kicked myself for days wondering what I missed that Thursday night.   Then I talked to the staff in the rehab unit and they confirmed I missed nothing.  He was fine when they brought him his breakfast and 1 ½ hours later they could not wake him.

They had no warning either:

  • There was no flashing neon sign above his bed at breakfast.
  • No one fired a warning shot across the bow of the nurse’s station.
  • There was no robot rolling around the rehab floor yelling “Danger Will Robinson.”

The staff of the rehab unit was stunned.

Out Of Nowhere

Joe’s stroke lived up to the etymology – “that which has come stealthily.”  It burst from out of nowhere. It was not there one second and there the next.

So while I am unable to relate to another person’s circumstances, I can relate to “that which has come stealthily” feeling.

My Wish

May you never experience suddenness.  If you do, God will give you the strength and you will become a better person for dealing with it.

Celebrant Joy

Celebrant – “One Who Celebrates”

Tonight I had the privilege of hearing Jon Stemkoski’s “Celebrant Singer’s.”  Wow!

They led those of us in attendance in a powerful, wonderful worship service that was very moving. These young men and women not only sing but share their testimony about what God has done in their lives.  Each one was broken in some way but God fixed them.  Now they are traveling all over the world singing, sharing their story and praying with people.   They have a passion for God and try to instill or reignite that same passion in audiences where ever they perform.

People left the service feeling blessed, radiating joy and I do believe passion for God was reignited.

Here is their website.  I highly recommend you check it out.  You can purchase CD’s of their music.

Tending Joy

Speaking of joy, when I first started this blog I set up a Google Alert for “joy returns.”  Well yesterday “joy returns” appeared on the Google alert in my email and it let me to a site called “Tending Joy by Ingrid Goff-Maidoff and specifically to a poem she wrote entitled “When Joy Returns.”  I loved it.

I also love her site. She offers several products including books, some of which are hand-sewn.  You can preview sample poetry from each book.  I liked “The Joy Book” , “What Holds Us”, “The Honey Sutras” and “Breathe” – a mini accordion book that serves as a reminder to stop for a moment and breathe.  It is perfect for those hectic, chaotic days where we are running a mile a minute.

Here is Ingrid’s website.  I hope you will check her beautiful work.   May it speak to you as it speaks to me.

Have a blessed day filled with lots of joy to celebrate

“God’s Embroidery”

I know this story has been circulating online and offline for a long time.  We reference this in Griefshare as a way to help explain what does not make sense.   So I thought I would share it with you.  I know there are people out there going through grief and other tough situations.  Hopefully this will help you as well.

God’s Embroidery (author unknown)

When I was a little girl, my Mother used to embroider a great deal. I would sit at her knee and look up from the floor and ask what she was doing. She informed me that she was embroidering. I told her that it looked like a mess from where I was. As from the underside, I watched her work with it in the boundaries of the little round hoop that she held in her hand.


I complained to her that is sure looked messy from where I sat.She would smile at me, look down and gently say, “My daughter, you go about playing for awhile, and when I am finished with my embroidering, I will put you on me knee and let you see it from my side.”


I would wonder why she was using some dark threads along with the bright ones, and why they seemed so jumbled from my view. A few minutes would pass, and then I would hear Mother’s voice say “Come and sit on my knee.”

This I did, only to be surprised and thrilled to see a beautiful flower or a sunset. I could not believe it, because from underneath, it looked so messy. Then Mother would say to me, “From underneath, it did look messy and jumbled, but you did not realize that there was a pre-drawn plan on the top. It was a design. I was following it. Now look at it from my side and you will see what I was doing.

Heavenly Father

“Many times through the years, I have looked up to my Heavenly Father and said, “Father, what are you doing?” He has answered, “I am embroidering your life.” I say, “But it looks like a mess to me. It seems so jumbled. The threads seems so dark. Why can’t they all be bright?” The Father seems to tell me, “My child, you go about your business of doing, and one day I will bring you to Heaven and put you on my knee, and you will see the plan from My side.”

**Author Unknown

How I Spent My 19th Wedding Anniversary

Just a crappy little post today about how I spent what would have been mine and Joe’s 19th wedding anniversary, which was Tuesday 6/19.

Yes, I did get a little teary-eyed Tuesday morning on my way to Home Depot at 8 a.m.

Why was I going to Home Depot?

So I could by a new handle for my toilet (I told you this was a crappy post   😉

You see Joe broke the plastic rod that is attached to the handle on one end and the flapper chain on the other.  The plastic rod snapped right where it inserts into the handle.


The only way to flush the toilet Monday night (after store hours) was to reach in the tank and pull up the flapper chain.

So Tuesday, I was mumbling to Joe about the nice “present” he left me.   Geez wiz!  What a way to spend an anniversary.

Well I got the new handle and it was easy to install, so now the toilet is back to normal.  Nice to know something around here is normal   😉

A Prayer of Thanks

Thank you God for bringing Joe into my life and for the 14 and ¾ years we had as husband and wife.

(This weekend’s Swingin’ Summer Saturday’s and Sunday’s is going to get crafty!  So round up the glue guns and sticks.)

(Rommie & Michele’s Backyard Safari Adventures begin Monday.)

“Dark Side” – We All Have & Need It


Below are some of the lyrics to Kelly Clarkson’s song that was the inspiration for this post.

“Dark Side”

Kelly Clarkson

 There’s a place that I know

It’s not pretty there and few have ever gone
If I show it to you now
Will it make you run away

Or will you stay
Even if it hurts
Even if I try to push you out
Will you return?
And remind me who I really am
Please remind me who I really am

If we were all perky and happy 24/7, we would be residing in heaven.  People are perfect there. However, we are here on earth every one of us is imperfect.

This means we all have a dark side.  It is impossible for us to be happy, smiling and upbeat 24/7, 365 days a year.   Our dark side could emerge for various reasons such as grief, job loss, or just getting up on the wrong side of the bed.

In fact we need our dark side.

God uses dark times and our dark side to grow us into the person He wants us to be.   How can you grow when you have no cares, worries or troubles that cause your dark side to emerge?

Growing Pains

Now I am not suggesting everyone be a “Negative Nellie”, but when a bad day or event happens go to your negative place, embrace it, and learn from it.

Remember, God will be with you when you are in a negative state no matter what the reason.

4 Questions

When you find yourself wrestling with your dark side ask yourself:

  • “How is God growing me?”
  • “What am I learning from this?”
  • “How can I share what I learned with others?”
  • “How can I get back to feeling joyful and positive?”

Use dark, dreary and depressing times as learning experiences.  By doing so, you are a positive role model for your friends and family.

Then when joy returns, fully appreciate it.

2 Questions For Happy People

All the happy people out there need to realize there is nothing wrong with occasionally being in a bad frame of mind.  The question is:

  • Will you have enough love to help your friends, family and acquaintances whose dark side is showing?
  • Do you not want to be around them because they will drag you down?

Not wanting to be around them because they will drag you down is being very selfish.   You are only looking out for you and not caring for your fellow human being.  It also shows that you do not love yourself.  If you did, you would not let someone’s dark side prevent you from helping them. Remember:

Love your neighbor as yourself.

Matthew 22:39

“Stay – just a little bit longer”

Don’t run away when someone reveals their dark side.  Stay by their side and provide them with necessary support and guidance. Their pain will pass and they will emerge a stronger more beautiful person.

They are worth helping.

So will you love them?

Everybody’s got a dark side
Do you love me?
Can you love mine?
Nobody’s a picture perfect
But we’re worth it
You know that we’re worth it
Will you love me?
Even with my dark side?

“If You Can’t Be Authentic…”

“…be nice.”

I was in a crowd when I heard someone say this statement.  I thought about it and decided that statement is baloney.

3 Reasons Why

There are 3 reasons why that quote is baloney.

  • Be Nice – Being nice should be a natural part of our authenticity.
  • Can’t – This word needs to be “sleeping with the fishes.”  Say it over and over and see how quickly it grates on your nerves.   Replace can’t with “unable” or “choose not.”  The sentence would then be: “If you are unable to be authentic…” or “If you choose not to be authentic…”  How sad for someone to decided they are either unable or choose not to be authentic.
  • Be Nice – Telling someone to be nice instead of authentic is telling them to lie. It’s telling them to be something they are unable to or choose not to be.


Be authentic 100% of the time, even if it means your dark side shows.  If people do not like your dark side and are unwilling to help lift you up when you are down, that is their problem – not yours.

When you show your dark side and friends/family turn their backs on you, that means they do not have enough love inside them to help lift you back up.  Instead they are and only want to be around “happy plastic people.” (Casting Crowns “Stained Glass Masquerade”)

Do you have the guts to be authentic and to accept other’s authenticity, even when their dark side shows?

Coming tomorrow – “The Dark Side – We All Have & Need It.”

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