(Author’s Note: Since I am now publishing “Movin’ and Groovin’ Mondays”, an original post will appear on Wednesdays, with “Weekend Wisdom” still on Saturday and Sundays.)
A lot of grieving people will say “I can’t recover from my husband’s death.” or “I can’t move on with my life since my child died.”
To them I say – “You are right.”
Don’t believe me, here is what Henry Ford had to say:
If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.
Can’t needs eliminated from our vocabulary anyway, but at no other time is it more important to get rid of it than during grief.
If you keep telling yourself “I can’t” during your grief journey, then you will not recover because you are telling yourself you “can’t.” You keep sowing negative thoughts. And you know what the Bible says about sowing:
Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.
You sow negative thoughts, you reap negative thoughts.
Negativity will keep you feeling nothing but excruciating pain and agony until your dying day.
“What Are You Doing The Rest Of Your Life?”
Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life – in pain and agony?
Is that how your spouse, parent, child or other loved one would have you spend the rest of your life?
Then eliminate “can’t” from your grief vocabulary and replace it with:
- I can recover
- I will move forward
After all, recovering and moving forward does not mean you forget or stop loving your spouse, it means you carry them with you in your heart while your life takes a new direction.
Won’t you please eliminate “can’t” and even the word “won’t” and live a life of joy in honor of your spouse or other loved one?
(Coming Next Wednesday: “What Joe Wanted…and What He Got”)