Tag Archives: Christian grief recovery

I See Widows…Too!

This video was posted today on Widow’s Christian Place a wonderful blog by Ferree Hardy, who also experienced a journey through widowhood.  While this video serves as an inspiration to all, like Ferree I see widows too.

Thanks Ferree for sharing this inspiration!

May the message of this video speak to everyone who watches it.

 

 

The Toughest Lesson You Will Learn While Grieving

What I have to say is painful but it is true.  I suggest you learn this lesson now, before grief strikes.

The Lesson

The following are NOT necessities in your life:

  • Your wife,
  • Your husband,
  • Your child or children,
  • Your grandchild or grandchildren,
  • Your grandparent or grandparents,
  • Your parent or parents,
  • Your brothers or sisters,
  • Your aunts & uncles,
  • Your cousins,
  • Your friends,
  • Your house,
  • Your job,
  • Your cat, dog, hamster or other pet,

These are  BLESSINGS from God but not necessities.

“All You Need Is Love”

The only necessity for your life is – GOD.

He is your sole provider.

He is love and because He is love, He will NEVER take anything away that is necessary for your well being.

He will always provide for you – possibly in ways you never expected.

His love and kindness is always there – you just need to open the eyes of your heart.

Your To Do List

Because these blessings are not forever, here is what you do:

  • Hug More
  • Kiss More
  • Talk More
  • Love More
  • Date More
  • Listen More
  • Cuddle More
  • Romance More
  • Hold Hands More
  • Play “Footsie” More
  • Say “I Love You” More
  • Say “Thank You” More
  • Leave Love Notes More
  • Enjoy each other’s company More

Do these things in remembrance of those of us who no longer have someone in our lives to do them with.

Just think of the joy you will bring and experience by doing these actions. 

Henry Ford & Grief Recovery

(Author’s Note: Since I am now publishing “Movin’ and Groovin’ Mondays”, an original post will appear on Wednesdays, with “Weekend Wisdom” still on Saturday and Sundays.)
 

A lot of grieving people will say “I can’t recover from my husband’s death.” or “I can’t move on with my life since my child died.”

To them I say – “You are right.”

Don’t believe me, here is what Henry Ford had to say:

If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.

Henry Ford

Can’t

Can’t needs eliminated from our vocabulary anyway, but at no other time is it more important to get rid of it than during grief.

If you keep telling yourself “I can’t” during your grief journey, then you will not recover because you are telling yourself you “can’t.” You keep sowing negative thoughts. And you know what the Bible says about sowing:

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

Galatians 6:7

You sow negative thoughts, you reap negative thoughts.

Negativity will keep you feeling nothing but excruciating pain and agony until your dying day.

“What Are You Doing The Rest Of Your Life?”

Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life – in pain and agony?

Is that how your spouse, parent, child or other loved one would have you spend the rest of  your life?

Then eliminate “can’t” from your grief vocabulary and replace it with:

  • I can recover
  • I will move forward

After all, recovering and moving forward does not mean you forget or stop loving your spouse, it means you carry them with you in your heart while your life takes a new direction.

Take Action

Won’t you please eliminate “can’t” and even the word “won’t” and live a life of joy in honor of your spouse or other loved one? 

(Coming Next Wednesday: “What Joe Wanted…and What He Got”)

Weekend Wisdom: Comfort

The Bible verse associated with today’s subject is:

Comfort those in any trouble

2 Corinthians 1:4

Quotes

Here are some quotes about comfort and for those of us in the frozen tundra of Northeast Ohio comfort is defined with one word – heat!

Enjoy and stay warm wherever you live.

Cure sometimes, treat often, comfort always.

Hippocrates

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it is a comfort to go hand in hand.

Emily Kimbrough

Sometimes, the best way to help someone is just to be near them.

Veronica Roth, Divergent

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they will not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched, Nor will the flame burn you.

Isaiah 43:2

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil; for Thou art with me; Thy rod and Thy staff, they comfort me.

Psalm 23:4

Weekend Wisdom: Encouragement

In our small group at church, we are studying the book “Love one another, 20 practical lessons” by Don McMinn.  We are reading 2 chapters a week.  This week we are studying chapters 5 “Encouragement” and 6 “Comfort.”  So I decided to find quotes for “Weekend Wisdom” that will coincide with our study.

Bible Verse

The Bible verse for today is:

Encourage one another

1 Thessalonians 5:11

Even though the idea for this “Weekend Wisdom” series is coming from a Bible study, not all quotes will be biblical. 

My Philosophy

This Bible verse serves as part of my philosophy behind JoyReturns.

Therefore encourage one another and build up each other, just as in fact you are doing.

 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)

Quotes

So here are some quotes about encouragement; hopefully at least one will speak to you.

I will let my BFF (Best Friend Forever) Ralph start.

Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Instruction does much, but encouragement everything.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The tongue is the strongest muscle in the human body; use yours to lift someone up today. 

Terri Ann Armstrong

It’s just that in the Deep South, women learn at a young age that when the world is falling apart around you, it’s time to take down the drapes and make a new dress.

Karen Marie Moning, Faefever

May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word.

2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

See to it, brothers and sisters, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.

Hebrews 3:12-13

(Coming tomorrow: Comfort)

Weekend Wisdom: Biblical Strength

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song.

Psalm 28:7

The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace.

Psalm 29:11

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Psalm 73:26

 

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 41:10

May he strengthen your hearts so that you will be blameless and holy in the presence of our God and Father when our Lord Jesus comes with all his holy ones.

1 Thessalonians 3:13

 

But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen and protect you from the evil one.

2 Thessalonians 3:3

If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.

1 Peter 4:11

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