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52 Bible Verses for a Joy Filled Year – Week 43

Welcome to week 43, a week whose verses deal with what I so desperately want and need.

And wherever he came, in villages, cities, or countryside, they laid the sick in the marketplaces and implored him that they might touch even the fringe of his garment. And as many as touched it were made well.

Mark 6:56 

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20 Just then a woman who had been suffering from chronic bleeding for twelve years came up behind him and touched the tassel of his garment, 21 because she had been saying to herself, “If I just touch his robe, I will get well.”

22 When Jesus turned and saw her, he said, “Be courageous, daughter! Your faith has made you well.” And from that very hour the woman was well.

Matthew 9: 20-22

 

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Oh, how I long to be the bleeding woman – to touch just the hem of Jesus’ robe and then my career will be healed.

It takes great faith to believe just touching the hem of his robe will heal your ailments. It is not that I have a faith as great as the bleeding woman, it is that I see me as unworthy of a hug, smile, or Jesus reaching out his hand to help me. Those actions are for other people, but please, please, please, I beg of you, just let me touch the hem of his robe – that is all I ask.

May God show us how to touch the hem of Jesus’ garment this week.

 

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives by seizing new opportunities. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while working as a call center team leader, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can view her photographs at OgleOhio.com because one blog is not enough

What I Would Tell My Younger Self

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This post is inspired by Holley Gerth’s Fiercehearted: Live Fully, Love Bravely for which I was blessed to be a member of her book launch team.

In chapter 5 Holley talks about if she could go back to her elementary school, she would look into her younger self’s eyes and tell her

“You’re going to be okay. Actually, you’re going to be quite wonderful.”

That got me to thinking what would I tell my younger self if I could go back to elementary school.

Now you have to be very, very, very careful what you tell young children as they are very, very, very, impressionable. I know. I was very impressionable and had words said to me that should not be said to anyone of any age.

I am going to put a different twist on Holley’s idea and say what I would tell myself at the following turning points in life:

  • elementary school self
  • 18-year-old self the night before graduation
  • 22-year-old self the night before college graduation
  • the night before my wedding self
  • the returning to work self the first day back after Joe’s passing.

My Elementary School Self

What I would tell myself the night before I start first grade. This is the most difficult because I would not want to freak my young self out, but there is an important life-changing, life-shaping event that will happen in a year. I need to instill confidence in her and not destroy her self-esteem.

  • Never forget Jesus loves you.
  • Love everyone
  • Be Kind to everyone
  • Pray
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“Honky Tonk Woman”

Oh, and 1 + 1 = 2 not 11.

My 18-Year-Old Self 

The night before my high school graduation I would say:

  • Don’t give up the flute. Take lessons in college. Start a hobby career as a flute player for weddings, cocktail parties, and other social events. Keep track of your clients and stay in touch with them during the holiday season. This is called networking and you will be ahead of the rest of society if you develop good networking skills now.
  • Change Your Major. Instead of setting your sites on being a teacher, major in Library Science with a minor in creative writing. Make sure you do not lose your conversational writing tone.
  • Stop being a people pleaser. Instead, live to please God.

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My 22-Year-Old Self

The night before my college graduation I would tell myself:

  • Stay grounded in the Bible. It will always be your manual for living fully and loving bravely.
  • Keep a gratitude journal. You need to be grounded in gratitude as it will help you get through life.
  • Learn how to apply makeup and keep up with the trends. Teaching people how to apply makeup is a vital skill now and in the future. If you work in retail, push to get into the makeup department.

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The Night Before My Wedding Self

I would say:

Love, Live, Laugh, Dance, Hold Hands, Snuggle, Kiss A Lot

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You waited a long time for marriage – cherish it.

  • Keep doing small things for him. It’s the small things that matter, like making Tuna Casserole.
  • Live by Elizabeth Barret Browning’s How Do I l Love Thee poem:

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.

I love thee to the depth and breadth and height

My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight

For the ends of being and ideal grace.

I love thee to the level of every day’s

Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.

I love thee freely, as men strive for right.

I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.

I love thee with the passion put to use

In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.

I love thee with a love I seemed to lose

With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,

Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,

I shall but love thee better after death.

 

My Newly Widowed Self

Here is what you need to do to thrive:

  • Write, write, and write. No one but you has to see what you write – not yet anyway. Hone your writing skills but keep the conversational tone.
  • Get some career counseling. Start and figure out what you would do if you were laid off.
  • Go back to school. I know the thought of term papers makes you want to puke but go back to school anyway.
  • Trust God. I know it is easier said and done, especially when times are tough but you have to do it.  He really IS your shepherd.
  • Keep praying and keep writing in a gratitude journal. This will help keep your mind focused on God and what is right in your life.
  • Get Back to photography, and reading. You enjoyed these hobbies before you got married, now get back to doing them again.
  • Eliminate the word “survive” and “okay” from your vocabulary. Focus on thriving instead. Surviving means treading water and okay means mediocre. You need to thrive and not survive.
  • But most of all:

BE KIND

Life is not going to get any easier. As a kid, you always knew life would be a struggle and your gut instinct was right. So no matter how hard life gets be kind to others as you are not walking in their shoes and don’t know what battle they are facing. Being kind will help keep your heart from hardening.

Remember no matter how hard the rest of your life will get:

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Now It’s Your Turn

That’s the advice I would give myself throughout different turning points in my life.

What advice would you give yourself?

 

Hands Photo by Shelby Deeter on Unsplash

All other photos by Michele Kearns

21st Century Parables – Introduction

Good Morning.

Starting tomorrow = I will be writing about some of the parables Jesus taught and explain how they apply to job searching in the 21st Century.

Job searching is one of my adventures since becoming a widow (it is worse than grief).

Lately Jesus’ parables have crossed my mind and I’ve been able to see how they apply to today’s job search. This is a subject I’ve been thinking about for some time and finally decided to do it.

I have a Bachelor of Arts in Rhetoric and Communication (college speak for public speaking) and not a Master of Divinity so I’m not an expert in theology. What I am an expert in is grief, job search, and society’s treatment of those in transition.

The Parable of the Sower is coming tomorrow. Other parables are:

  • The Rich Man
  • The Banquet

as well as any other ones I can apply to job search.

Now off to put paint chips on my spare bedroom walls as I am converting it into an office.

Enjoy your day and I will see you tomorrow.

God bless you.

 

Five Minute Friday – Weary

Once again, I am hooking up with Kate Motaung for Five Minute Friday.

I was going to write this post next week but Kate forced my hand to write it sooner with her word prompt selection.

Since August I was rear-ended, let go from my job the following week, survived 2 months of therapy, and wrote through the month of October while conducting a job search.

I am weary. 

All those things have taken a toll on me but mostly it’s been the job searching that’s broken my back (figuratively). I should be sharing articles on LinkedIn more, I should be publishing blog posts on LinkedIn but I have no desire to do those things to increase my visibility.

I want to get out more but where?

Where does the weary widow go from here?

“I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint.”

Jeremiah 31:25

I do not know, so I am taking a break from blogging starting this coming week. Hopefully during this holiday break I will be able to figure out some things and God will restore my soul.

He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.

Psalm 23: 2-3

I have one more post to publish and that is a recommended list of books for your holiday gift list (either for yourself or someone else).

There is a Holiday Help page, in the wine colored menu bar, where I’ve listed some resources and when I come across more, I will add to that page.

But other than that, I am done till sometime next year.

This means even Facebook is going dark. Will only be using it to correspond with my Faithful Finish Lines members, but even that will not be as often.

You can always reach me at the email listed in the sidebar, as I have to keep up with any job search emails.

So Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year my friends and family.

Wishing you a safe, healthy, prosperous and joyous holiday season.

God Bless You.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Matthew 11:28

I’m coming Lord Jesus, I am coming.

Don’t worry folks, God will make lemonade out of this lemon period of my life. He’s done it before and will do it again.

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Unroll.me – How to Unclutter Your Email

Since for the next two weeks I will be working on behind the scenes maintenance with Writing 101 and Blogging 201 from WordPress, I decided to work on another “behind the scenes” project known as taking out the email trash.

Oh boy does my email get cluttered and it is my fault. I always need to keep learning more and more so I sign up for all sorts of newsletters and blog posts to hopefully help me be a better blogger, writer, jobseeker, networker and a better person overall.

Word for 2015

My word for this year was Thrive (and I’ve once again survived but not thrived). There were 3 words that supported “thrive” – Intentional, Simplify, and Trust.

Well yesterday I intentionally simplified by email by logging back into my Unroll.me account and deleting a lot of subscriptions to newsletter and blog posts.

It’s simple. All you have to do is create a Unroll.me account using your email and a password you remember, then it will show you all the newsletter and blog posts you have subscribed to. You simple click “unsubscribe” to anything you no longer want to receive. This is a great tool for simplifying your email inbox.

Now my email looks a lot better and yours will too.

Stay tuned for the further adventures of Michele’s “behind the scenes” life during the next two weeks.

Have a joy filled week.

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Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at OgleOhio.com.

God’s Hand In Michele’s New Job!!!

As you read this, I will be starting my last two weeks at my call center job.

On May 26th, I will start a new job in a new industry – the relocation industry.  I will be doing customer service, marketing, and office administration for a company that specializes in moving executives.

So I get to add another industry to my varied career background, a background that includes:

  • retail sales
  • banking
  • collections (mortgage loans, lines of credit, automobile loans and leases, and student loans)
  • grief support
  • outdoor products

I have the ability to learn different industries and learn them well enough to be known as the go-to person if someone has a question. The exception to this is the outdoor products. I can answer basic questions about systems and decipher what customers are talking about, (“the rope that goes around the circles that spin the knives.”) but there is a whole lot of technical knowledge I do not possess that would require me to attend lots of training classes.

Over-joyed But Surprised

Surprised is a word that describes how a lot of people felt when they got my email or phone call. Everyone wondered how this came about because there were no requests from me about having an interview and needing prayers that I have all the answers to the questions.

This went down quickly. I got an email from a friend I met while volunteering. She knew I was struggling and needed a break. So when this position came open, she got in touch with me and asked if I was interested. I told her yes and we exchanged emails and phone calls about the company and my role.

I completed the application and submitted it and my resume, along with the background check form and went for a drug test. I was running a few minutes late going to work after the drug test when I got stopped by a train. I sat there for 11 minutes as a train with hundreds of tanker and box cars crept along the tracks. I was not the only person late for work that day. Guess God knew that it would not look suspicious when numerous people were late.

Then came the text that told me everything was fine with the background check and drug test so go ahead and submit my 2-week notice.

Everyone at work is happy for me but hates to see me leave.

Living The Bible

My friend offering me a break is an example of someone living out Proverbs 3:27 and James 1:27

Never walk away from someone who deserves help;
    your hand is God’s hand for that person.

Proverbs 3:27

(The Message) 

and

 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

James 1:27

(NIV)

There were numerous people in the past 6 years of career instability who had a chance to be the hand of God to me but instead turned their back, but that is a subject for another post.

God’s Hand

God’s hand was in this situation from the beginning. After all, He placed Isaiah 43:19 on my heart earlier this year. I just could not see “a new thing” until 2 weeks ago.

See, I am doing a new thing!
    Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
    and streams in the wasteland.

Thank you God for doing a new thing in my life that brings me out of the wilderness. Please forgive all my grumbling.

May you see God’s hand at work in every aspect of your life.

* “the rope that goes around the circles that spin the knives.” translates to “the deck belt that goes around the pullies that spin the blades.” Pullies are attached to spindles and the blades are attached to the bottom of the spindles on riding mowers.

Weekend Wisdom: Joan Rivers & Ralph Waldo Emerson

This quote from my buddy Ralph describes Joan Rivers’ life:
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thank you for leaving one heck of a trail, a trail of twists, turns, hills and valleys because no path in life is straight.

RIP Joan.

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