Category Archives: Life

All We Are Left With

 

The post At The End Of All Things. by my friend and fellow blogger Andrew, really hit me hard yesterday. His wisdom and common sense are gained from being in the process of moving to heaven.

Here are some of the words that spoke to my heart.

At the end of all things, all we’re left with is our faith, and our hope, and our love. These are the imperishables, but they’re ours to throw away if we choose.

Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart

Yes, at life’s end all we are left with is our faith, hope and love. Whether we love well or poorly, love is our greatest legacy.

Will you be like Andrew and become love?

I encourage you to read Andrew’s post, it will give you a different perspective on your life.

Andrew ends his posts with a musical theme. Today’s music is from the late Jim Croce. Lyrics are below.

“I Got A Name”

Like the pine trees lining the winding road I got a name, I got a name Like the singing bird and the croaking toad I got a name, I got a name And I carry it with me like my daddy did But I’m living the dream that he kept hid

Moving me down the highway
Rolling me down the highway
Moving ahead so life won’t pass me by

Like the north wind whistling down the sky
I’ve got a song, I’ve got a song
Like the whippoorwill and the baby’s cry
I’ve got a song, I’ve got a song
And I carry it with me and I sing it loud
If it gets me nowhere, I go there proud

Moving me down the highway
Rolling me down the highway
Moving ahead so life won’t pass me by

And I’m gonna go there free

Like the fool I am and I’ll always be
I’ve got a dream, I’ve got a dream
They can change their minds but they can’t change me
I’ve got a dream, I’ve got a dream
Well, I know I can share it if you want me to
If you’re going my way, I’ll go with you

Moving me down the highway
Rolling me down the highway
Moving ahead so life won’t pass me by
Moving me down the highway
Rolling me down the highway
Moving ahead so life won’t pass me by

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and seize new opportunities to rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while working as a call center team leader, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can view her photographs at OgleOhio.com, because one blog is not enough.

June’s Coming Attractions

arrangement5Besides the 52 Bible Verses for a Joy Filled Year series, you will read about dreams and not quenching the spirit in others. The post is based on 1 Thessalonians 5:19.

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VCSR

A post about lessons learned so far being a Virtual Customer Service Representative will run around mid-month. I will also be sharing before, during and after pictures of my office makeover. Actually, it looks more like a command center for The Men In Black or James Bond with all the computer equipment on my desk.

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I’m too sexy for my headset.

Areas of Life

My 6/19 post will detail how I am progressing in remaking my life – physical self, mental self, physical surroundings, family & friends, career, finances, fun/hobbies and romance/significant other. My goal is to have all areas made over in time for next year’s 25th anniversary of joining the Kearns family. (It will be a quiet celebration between me, God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.)

There will be a few other posts as topics come to mind.

Stay tuned as you never know what adventure I will be sharing with you.

Here is the link to the Right Said Fred office video – I’m Too Sexy . It just might be toooooo sexy for you to handle.         😉

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13 Month Journey

(My word for 2017 is “Bold” so I am writing periodically about “Bold” decisions that I make)

Thirteen months from today will be my 25th wedding anniversary.

Notice I did not say “our” anniversary.

While Joe and I are no longer married, it is still the anniversary of when I legally joined the Kearns family – and that deserves to be celebrated. It will be a quiet celebration between me, God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I do not expect a shindig.

Double Milestone

When the 25th anniversary arrives, the 10th anniversary of Joe’s passing will have come and gone (3/29).

A decade without him and what accomplishments do I have to show for the past 10 years? Not much. There is this blog, my photography blog and taking care of Rommie until her passing. But there have been more failures than successes. These failures, mostly career related, have left a lot of bumps and bruises on my heart, mind and soul.

However, my current life is in shambles. Most of the 8 areas of life stink. –  career does not stink as I started a wonderful job, working for a wonderful company.

I just came up with the idea for this journey 24 hours ago, so there is no grand plan for the following areas – yet.

  • Growing career helping people solve problems and/or rebuild their life.
  • Staying in this home.
  • Getting as physically fit as a superhero.
  • Get mentally fit (this means faith). The rest of my mental self is well.
  • Get back to photography (my shutter quit after 9 years).
  • Spend more time with family/friends.
  • Be more financially secure.
  • Romance/Significant Other   Got to get the other areas straightened out before I start work on this area.

Good News

The good news is you can always begin again, right where you are at, with what you have, on any given day, in any area of life.  God’s mercies are new every morning.

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22-23

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The Countdown Begins

So I have 13 months to finally get my act together and turn this life around so it honors and glorifies God, and honors Joe’s memory.

Come with me on this journey. I will post on the 19th of every month, unless that is a Sunday as I do not want to interrupt the 52 Bible Verses For A Joy Filled Year series.

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Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives by seizing new opportunities. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while working as a call center team leader, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can view her photographs at OgleOhio.com because one blog is not enough.

A Golden Message From Heaven

Rommie stopped by last night to deliver a message to those of us who are struggling with various adversities. Rommie embraced life every day. She lived out Psalm 118:24

This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

She rejoiced and was glad every day, despite having hip issues. Every day was a beautiful day to play ball, chase squirrels off her fence and bite skunks on the rear end.

So wherever you are and what ever skunk (grief, divorce, unemployment) is spraying you remember

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Rommie Kearns (8/5/2002 – 7/31/2015) 

May your day be filled with lots of love, hugs and sloppy wet kisses.

What a Widow Needs to Read – “The Broken Way” by Ann Voskamp

Author’s Note: I was blessed to be chosen as a member of The Broken Way: a daring path into the abundant life book launch team and receive a free copy of the book. I read the pdf version and then re-read it when the book arrived.Yes, I have a thing for sticky notes, which I try to coordinate to the colors used in the book cover.

Upon completing the launch team application, there was a box where I needed to type a reason why I should be on the team. I put something about recommending it as a resource for widows on my site.

So do I recommend it for widows – yes.

It will help you get through your grief by reminding you it is alright to grieve. This is something Jesus knew but society sees as a sign of weakness.

Great grief isn’t made to fit inside your body. It’s why your heart breaks. 

You will also learn that being the G.I.F.T (Give It Forward Today) to other broken people is the best way to mend your broken heart.

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The third lesson you will learn is that like Esther, you were made for such a time as this.  God knows you are broken, God sees the best in you and God will use your brokenness in ways that will amaze you and in ways that will change the world. (I had no knowledge of blogging or websites when I heard “widow’s website” whispered in my ear early one morning.)

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There are many more lessons you will learn as you travel down the broken path with Ann in this book.

So while yes this is a wonderful book for widows, it is also a wonderful book for everyone because we are all broken. I love The Broken Way because it shows you how to truly live an abundant life by giving. The more you give of yourself to the broken the more you abundance you receive.

Struggle

I struggled to write this post because there is so much in this book. Every time I pick up it up and flip through it, something else jumps out at me. I could probably write a year’s worth of blog posts because of how deeply it speaks to my soul – my broken soul.

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My prayer is that you will read and adopt a broken way lifestyle. There are many broken people who are waiting for someone such as you to step into their broken life in a time such as this.

You can order it by clicking here or on any of the other links in the post.

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Thank You

Thank you Ann for writing a joy filled and thought provoking book and for being a wonderful inspiration to the world. Like Esther you were made for such a time as this.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, insurance, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can view her photographs at OgleOhio.com, her photography blog, because one blog is not enough.

Weekend Wisdom: Comfort in Election Insanity

My blog posts will fit into one of 5 blog categories – joy, grief, career, life and W.O.O. This is an example of a “life” post -just general thoughts, ramblings, and adventures about life. 

 

Stressed out, fed up, tired and weary of the election craziness already? Join the club.

Thursday night was the first Republican Debate I watched because it is the one closest to Ohio’s primary on 3/15.

Oh my heavens. The adjectives that come to mind are disgusting, childish, and pathetic. All were a disgrace to the Republican party – except for Governor John Kasich. Thank you Mr. Governor  for being the only adult on stage Thursday night.

Theme Song

There was one song that kept running through my mind as I watched the “bar room brawl” between Trump, Rubio and Cruz – Garth Brooks’ Friends In Low Places, not sure why guess it is because they lacked “social graces.”       😉

My Only Comfort

My only comfort in all this insanity comes from John 16:33 (ESV).

33 I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

Yes, we will get through all the insanity of the primary and general elections because Jesus overcame the world so there is no one who will “trump” Jesus. (pun intended)

Now off to go pray some more for our country and this election.

 

Gentle On My Mind – One Word 2016

Every year bloggers choose either one word or 3 words to focus on during the year. Normally, these posts are published on New Year’s Day. However, I am running very late with publishing my post.

2015

Last year my one word was – Thrive! Ever since Joe passed I had been using the words “muddle”, “okay” and “survive.” Well those are mediocre words, so no wonder my life was mediocre. I was determined to make 2015 different by being intentional, simplifying, and trusting.

It was a different year. I was starting to thrive. I was one paycheck away from being able to bank a sizeable amount every other week when – bam! I was “rear-ended” in multiple ways by multiple people.

After that – 2015 went into the sewer.

2016

That is why going into 2016 I felt mentally beat up.

While pondering if I was even going to choose a word this year, I decided on what books I wanted to read in January which lead me to 4 words – Thank, Joy, Savor and Unmask. I decided any one of them would work or I could choose to use multiple words for the year.

The Word That Would Not Go Away

But there was another word that kept coming up in my mind –

Gentle

While the other 4 words would work, Gentle seemed to fit better in my life because I felt broken.

Gentle is how I:

  • need to be treated
  • need to treat the world

Now me treating the world gently is something I have control over.

However, I have no control over whether or not the world will be gentle with me. All I can do is to be gentle with the world and hope and pray God sees to it that the world reciprocates.

I will claim this verse and add it to my Draw the Circle challenge.

Holy Spirit, work Romans 15:13 into my life so I will treat the world gently and it will treat me gently in return. 

In Jesus name I pray

Amen

This ought to be an interesting year.

13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Romans 15:13

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Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products, social media and greeting card industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer.

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