Category Archives: Joyful Life

The Wind Blown Look

This is me yesterday after arriving back home from a birthday party. Sunroof open, driver’s and passenger side windows down for the hour and 20 minutes drive. Temperature in the 80’s with lots of sun. Life felt normal. The drive did my mental self good as did being around Joe’s family.

Here’s hoping you have a day where all the windows can be rolled down and you get the windblown look.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, co-facilitating a grief support group, and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Words – Living a Joyful Life

Sorry it’s been quiet here lately other than Weekend Wisdom posts. I’ve been struggling with writing and wrapping my head around this bizarre life we are temporarily living. I’ve also spending a lot of time editing pictures for the Stay @ Home series on OgleOhio.

I will have some thoughts about current circumstances next week. In the meantime, here’s another post in my Living a Joyful Life series because life will be as normal as possible on this blog. The prior posts are on my “Start Here” page

Words

It’s only words and words are all I have
To take your heart away

Words
BeeGees

While the BeeGees were talking about taking someone else’s heart away by saying words of love, you can take your heart away by using the wrong words.

Words like muddle, okay, alright and mediocre don’t have a place in your vocabulary when grief strikes. I used those words and they describe the life I’ve lived since Joe’s passing. I told people I would be okay, that I didn’t know how but I would muddle through grief and unemployment.

Life has been a roller coaster and if I had read, listened and believed people who wrote or spoke words of excellence, grief and unemployment might have been easier to work through.

The old saying “Garbage In, Garbage Out.” is true. If you do not put enough quality content in your mind, your actions and words will not result in quality life achievements.

Don’t be like me.

Fill your mind with quality words by reading and listening to uplifting people. Then speak positive words to yourself and others during tough times.

Finding The Right Words

The best place to find joyful, life-giving, words for any nasty life event is The Bible.

Encouraging Scripture for Grief

but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;

    they shall mount up with wings like eagles;

they shall run and not be weary;

    they shall walk and not faint.

Isaiah 40:31
New Living Translation
(NLT)
biblegateway.com

Getting through grief involves a lot of waiting and walking slowly down a new path. There might be times when you are tempted to run though grief, but that is not advisable. You can do more damage hurrying through grief and not dealing with all the “firsts” you will encounter after your spouse’s passing.

Encouraging Scripture for Unemployment

For the Lord your God is going with you! He will fight for you against your enemies, and he will give you victory!’

Deuteronomy 20:4
New Living Translation
(NLT)
biblegateway.com

I was in the unemployment line back in 2009, not a good time to be dumped there due to a reorganization. God was with me but most of the time I was blind to His presence as I was too busy looking at the rising pile of bills and the dwindling bank account.

He gave me victory in the form of temporary jobs, making new friends, safe travel to and from networking events, job search support groups, and an excellent coach who taught me the new rules of job search.

Encouraging Scripture for Troubled Times

16 Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.

2 Thessalonians 3:16
New International Version
(NIV)
biblegateway.com

The Lord is with us all the time even when we are dealing with new societal rules such as social distancing. He is the same today as He was before the Coronavirus was unleashed upon the world and He will be the same after a cure and vaccine are found. In the midst of any troubled time, not only is he with you, He will give you His peace.

Listen, Watch and Edit

No matter the nasty event in your life, listen to the words you say, watch the words you read and write and strikeout words from your vocabulary.

Speaking of striking out words, don’t be afraid to edit what others say to you. If someone states that you will get through grief and be okay again. Tell them,

“Yes, I will get through 99% of my grief but I will not be okay. I will be better than okay. I will thrive! I will use being a widow to grow personally and professionally. I refuse to simply be okay.”

Wild or Okie Dokie?

The words you use will determine whether you have an okie dokie mediocre life or one that exceeds your wildest expectations. What you say around others reflects your mindset. Fill your mind with encouraging, life-giving words, speak them over yourself and others and you will have a joyful life.

Related Resources: Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman. The devotional God spoke to me through after Joe’s passing.

Hope Your Heart Needs: 52 Encouraging Reminders of How God Cares For You. – Holley Gerth – You will not find anyone more positive, encouraging and uplifting than Holley. I’ve read a lot of her books and they are filled with life-giving words. Disclaimer: I was also on Holley’s Fiercehearted, Live Fully, Love Bravely book launch team.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

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Take Up a Hobby For a Joyful Life

Photography was my hobby before Joe and I became a couple. Then after our wedding things changed. Joe watched a lot of TV and wanted me to do what he was doing – so I watched a lot of TV with him.

Then when he passed I had trouble figuring out who I was as a single person. One day while cleaning out my closet, I came across my film camera and decided to get back into photography. The first thing I did was upgrade my camera to a Cannon EOS Rebel Xsi.

I dove into figuring out how to use it and began taking pictures everywhere. It gets me out of the house, seeing various places in Ohio, and getting my exercise by walking.

McKinley Monument, Canton, OH
Bonnie Park, Strongsville, OH
Mapleside Farm, Brunswick, OH
Alderfer-Oenslager wildlife sanctuary
Ohio Erie Canal Lock, Independence, OH

Due to car issues, I’ve had to stay in the local area and sometimes be content with photographing the sights in my backyard.

The car issue was resolved last October so I will be able to boldly go farther distances once the weather warms up and this nagging cough is gone.

It was good for me to get back to photography as it makes me look at things from different angles. Coincidentally, I done that at various jobs through out my career – find unique ways to solve problems by viewing them in ways other people don’t see.

I also look at the world around me and think “Oh, that would make a good picture.” You do not want to know how many pictures I have on my computer. It would boggle your mind.

So decide to take up a hobby in order to refresh your mind as you use it in a different way from your normal daily activities. It will help you lead a joyful life.

Mallards joyfully gathering at the park. (March 2020)

Related Resources: OgleOhio my photography blog that I started in 2012 because while one blog is good, two is better.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

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