Category Archives: grief

Weekend Wisdom: Saving the Crushed

This rainbow appeared on my dining room wall one morning many years ago. I always thought it would make a great background for quotes and now seems like a good time for a rainbow.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Living A Joyful Life – Read Your Bible

This is the second post in the Living A Joyful Life series. You can read the first one here.

Once you are experiencing your high from exercising, read your Bible. Read life giving words.

My current favorite verse is:

But you, O Lord, are a shield around me;

    you are my glory, the one who holds my head high.

Psalm 3:3
New Living Translation
(NLT)

I do not care if you read the same verse over and over. The point is you are reading words that will comfort you and bring restoration and new growth to your soul.

Other Verses

Here are other verses you may enjoy reading.

Yet I am confident I will see the Lord’s goodness
    while I am here in the land of the living.

Psalm 27:13
New Living Translation
(NLT)

Bible Reading Plans

You could start from Genesis and read all the way through Revelation, or you can follow a specific Bible reading plan. There are numerous plans you can complete in a year or two.

I like the one developed by Ferree Hardy of Widow’s Christian Place. She developed this plan and has refined it over time. Here is a link to her reading plan which I am following this year.

Also here is a link to her post on how to make Bible reading a delight.

There are also chronological Bibles you can buy so you can read the Bible in the order events happened.

It does not matter whether you read one verse over and over or if you use a reading plan.

Just read The Bible and you will experience a joyful life. You will still have tough times because Jesus said:

33 I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”

John 16:33
New Living Translation
(NLT)

May His peace be in you today and always, whether life is good or tough.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Living A Joyful Life – Exercise

Author’s Note: This is the first in a series of articles on what I believe are keys to living a joyful life. A new post will be published every Wednesday.

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1st Corinthians 6:19 -20
ESV
English Standard Version

I know you are reading this stunned that the first article in the series is about exercise. After much thought, I decided this was the foundation for living a joyful life. Hopefully exercising will lead you to the next step, especially if you are grieving or going through another nasty life event.

Now I am the last person who needs to be writing about exercise since the most I do is up and down the basement steps when doing laundry.

But maybe if I write about exercise I will do it more. Maybe this spring I need to bring back Tour de Parks where I walk a different park every week and then blog about it.

Plum Creek Park

Exercise and Mental Health

It is exercise alone that supports the spirits, and keeps the mind in vigor.

Marcus Tullius Cicero
Quote courtesy of QuoteGarden.com

You need exercise to keep the endorphins and other chemicals giving you a natural high. They help boost your mood so you feel like working through tough situations such as grief or career transition.

It is the number one thing I would tell a person to do to get through grief and I mean start the day after the funeral.

Even if it is walking around the block, just do it and keep doing it. You will slowly but surely feel like doing more things to move forward with your new life.

Speaking of walking…

How I Make Walking Less Of A Chore

My favorite thing to do when I go for walks in area parks is to take my camera. Practicing my photography takes my mind off how many laps I’ve yet to do around the pond…

or how far I still need to walk.

Getting Started

The desire of activity is designed by nature to promote our physical well-being. Physical activity is the law of physical health. 

Edward Brooks, 1882
Quote courtesy of QuoteGarden.com

Get some cool tennis shoes and some cool Hollywood starlet shades and you are off and walking.

Chores

Not into walking? Then do chores as they count as exercise – both indoor and outdoor. They are another form of activity that adds up.

So run up and down the basement steps while waiting for the dryer to stop, pick up your speed when vacuuming or dance while you are dusting. Hmmm…we may have a new sport – ballroom dusting.

For your outdoor exercise may I recommend raking a gully as part of your plan to meet the 150 minutes per week requirement.

The gully in my backyard is known as The River Kearns and every couple years, it makes an appearance when we get a lot of rain. I then rake the drain area to make sure leaves, twigs and grass clipping are not clogging the drain. Fun, fun, fun.

A Wise Old Saying

You’ve heard it said that in order to never work a day in your life, find a job you enjoy doing.

The same is true for exercise, find some type you enjoy doing and you will never exercise a day in your life.

Now if you will excuse me, I need to go strip the sheets off the bed with the force of an F5 tornado, run down the steps and dunk them in the washing machine. Then it will be time to get out of the house as it is my day off and I must spend most of it away from home. Looks like I will be walking the mall due to the cold, gloomy weather.

Remember – Exercise and you will experience joyful life thanks to the endorphins and other hormones. Plus you will give people something to talk about when you tell them you did ballroom dusting before coming to work.

Reflect first upon that great law of our nature, that exercise is the chief source of improvement in all our faculties.

Hugh Blair (1718–1800)
Quote courtesy of QuoteGarden.com

Related Reading: How to Start Exercising and Stick to It.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Rejoice And Be Glad

We will rejoice and be glad that our Holy, Gracious and Loving Heavenly Father blessed us with another day filled with His new mercies.

Rommie’s Favorite Bible Verse

We will rejoice and be glad during the hardest of days that friends show up with pans of lasagna, boxes of Kleenex, and are willing to just sit and let us cry, vent and beat the couch pillows as we grieve.

For his anger is but for a moment,
    and his favor is for a lifetime.
Weeping may tarry for the night,
    but joy comes with the morning.

Psalm 30:5
English Standard Version
(ESV)

Now go tell your friends and family that you love them. Put down the phone, turn off the television, take off the headphones and spend time together rejoicing, being glad and enjoying each others company as you celebrate life.

For while life is sweet…it can be short.

One more thing –

I LOVE YOU!

Related Reading: (in)courage – A Man Who Cried When His Friend Died

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Seeing His Hand

This is not what I had planned for the first Wednesday post, but I thought it was appropriate after what happened last weekend.

Rainbow Over Woods Behind House – June 2008 (photo by Michele Kearns)

When trials come that devastate, we can’t see the mercy, only the devastation. We can’t see God in it, but I promise you, He is there. His mercy is real, and no matter what we go through, eventually we will see His hand.

Kate Battistelli
The God Dare, Will You Choose to Believe the Impossible?
pg 143

It may take time but you will see His hand, along with His goodness and mercy following you all the days of your life.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Suicide Help

I published this post on June 19th, 2019.

Unfortunately there is a need to publish it again.

While this death hits closer to home, it is not my story to tell, so I will not be sharing the details.

Here is the link to Pastor Adam Hamilton’s sermon

Like a Broken Vessel: The Gospel and Suicide.

He is pastor at Church of the Resurrection in Leawood, Kansas.

Resources:

  • National Suicide Hotline:  1-800-273-8255

If you or a loved one need help, please reach out. We are all in this life together and each person is a cherished son or daughter of God.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to inspire widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s currently using those skills as a virtual logistics contact center representative for a Fortune 100 company. She’s also managed call center teams, co-facilitated a grief support group, and helped small businesses with various writing assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, music, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

Welcome To The Roaring 20’s!

Happy New Year!

Welcome to the Roaring 20’s!

That means one thing – The Charleston!

When you are grieving you need to establish an exercise routine. Whether it is practicing The Charleston or walking around the block.

Exercise helps boosts those endorphins which will hopefully help you feel at least a little better and maybe more likely to do other things that will move you through grief.

So here is a link to one of the many, many videos on how to do The Charleston dance from the 1920’s.

Enjoy!

May God bless you with health, prosperity, comfort and joy in 2020.

Next Post – January 13th – 9th Anniversary Post.

Another New Year’s Resource: How To Stop Procrastinating (Free Resource): Do that Hard Thing in the New Year by Ann Voskamp

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, co-facilitating a grief support group, and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, and a lover of history, chocolate, red roses, and golden retrievers. She is also the amateur photographer behind the blog OgleOhio.com

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