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“Deep Impact”

 

(Author’s note: This week’s articles are designed to provide an employer with information about helping an employee experiencing sudden widowhood at an age society considers “young.”

Today’s article is an attempt to get you to understand sudden widowhood. I use the word attempt because however, I describe it the description is not accurate enough.)

 

What Happened

The best way I know to describe what happened to your employee is:

the scene in Deep Impact where Jenny Lerner (Tea Leoni) and her father Jason Lerner (Maximillan Schell) are standing on the beach waiting for the first tsunami wave to engulf them after the comet hits earth.

An emotional tsunami has engulfed your employee.

The Pain

The best description of the pain she is feeling is:

her heart was ripped out ad put into a mortar and is being ground 24/7 with a pestle. No matter how much grinding is done, her heart is like a jawbreaker and never gets any smaller.

Feelings, woo-o feelings (Morris Albert)

Other feelings she might be dealing with are loneliness, abandonment, loss of identity, and lack of self-esteem. You name the emotion and if she is not feeling it now, there is a good chance she will feel it later.

For example – I did not hit the “anger” stage until six months after Joe died. It was just one of those days where every little thing went wrong. I slammed my car door every chance I got while saying more than a few unpleasant things to Joe. Luckily, my 2004 Saturn Ion survived the abuse.

 

Healthy Choice

Letting her deal with grief is not only healthy but a positive and productive step in the recovery process.

If she stuffs her negative feelings inside she is hooking herself to an I.V. bottle of poison, attaching it to a rack and rolling it around for the rest of her life.

In case you did not realize it –

Poison Kills

 

Maybe suddenly or maybe over months of years but the poison those negative emotions cause will slowly eat away at her mental and physical wellbeing.

By the way, this is true for anyone who stuffs their grief inside, not just us widows.

 

Life Is A Highway (Tom Cochrane)

Sudden widowhood is a nightmarish journey some of us must take while traveling life’s highway. It is not fun but it is a learning and growing experience. Once she gets through this journey she will be a better employee.

Don’t you want an employee who is able to endure being engulfed by an emotional tsunami, slowly ascend through the wave and break through the crest?

Imagine what she will do for your company – the possibilities are endless.

 

Coming tomorrow: The answer to “How Long?”

 

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of chocolate, red roses and golden retrievers and is an amateur photographer.

 

Credits:

Mortar and Pestal Photo by Katherine Hanlon on Unsplash

Cell Photo by Christopher Windus on Unsplash

Wave Photo by Nathan Anderson on Unsplash

Words for a Wednesday

Hello. Well, here is another post I did not intend on writing but when I got up this morning I knew I had to write a post. I feeeellllll good! today. When I get to feeling this good, look out world!

Weather Report

It is a sunny, tropical day here in Ohio.

Ummm…Michele….lying is a sin. Afterall I am sure everyone can smell the heat from the furnace.

Yes, that is right folks I said the “F” word – furnace. It is June and that means in Ohio we turn on the furnace to take the chill out of the morning air.

Instagram People You Should Follow

I am very selective about who I follow on Instagram. I have to know you or you have to be recommended by someone. If you are a man, I will NOT follow you.

These are the accounts whose words and pictures I find soothing and life-giving.

nikki.at.the.cottage. – Because there is no better way to start your day after turning off your 5 a.m. alarm than to look at the beautiful flower, garden or other nature post from a cottage in rural Suffolk. I know you are not supposed to turn on your social media as soon as you get up, but Nikki’s posts soothe the soul and are a beautiful way to start your day. Wonderful words accompany her pictures. I live the gardening life through her.

Maplehurst Gardens – I also live the gardening life through maplehurstgardens, the home of author Christie Purifoy and her family. Another gorgeous Instagram feed filled with flowers, trees, meadows and free-range chickens. It was her post this morning that changed how I feel about my backyard.

My backyard is overgrown due to being sidelined with multiple sinus issues, intestinal issues and strained lower back muscles the past two weeks. Christie said she and her family call overgrown grass and weeds a meadow.

There is power in words.

So now instead of a backyard, I have a meadow – Michele’s Meadow – which is half mowed.

Thank you, Christie, for changing my perspective.

kaitylyn_bouch (Kaitlyn Bouchillon). Author Kaitlyn Bouchillon’s posts usually speak to my heart and nourish my soul. However, she is currently visiting Israel and her first post from the Valley of Elah (where David slew Goliath) had a deep impact on me.

“We don’t need to cover up who we are with someone else’s armor. We can simply kneel down, live the story we’ve been given, trust His goodness, and believe He goes with us.

Let’s remember. And then let’s dare to run.”

Those are just her closing words. The rest of the post is just as wonderful. Well done Kaitlyn, well done.

Change in Devotional Routine

I am off today. So I decided to dig deep into Kelly Balarie’s new book Battle Ready instead of my devotional book on Proverbs. I will save that for tonight as I do not believe in screen time after 6 p.m. except on Tuesday and Wednesday nights since I am off on Wednesday and Thursdays. (I have a free copy of Kelly’s book on my Kindle.)

God is speaking to me through Kelly’s book as well also. This morning I finished Warrior Mind-Set 7 Bounce-Back Ability. (Warrior Mind-Set = Chapter)

These are some of the words I highlighted this morning:

Ten Secrets of Resiliency:

#8 – The truth is you’re moving from glory to glory.

Know this: you’ve come further than you give yourself credit for.

#9 Jesus suffered too, but that didn’t stop him.

A Foundational Truth that will put you back on Safe Ground:

The only thing Jesus proved is that He ultimately trusted the Father, even during hardship.

Resiliency is knowing whose you are so you don’t fall into the “proving” trap that only leaves you tired, weary, and all busted up.

Hopefully at least some of these words will speak to you as well. You can order Kelly’s book Battle Ready here.

Old Testament Verse of the Day

These verses also come from Warrior Mind-Set #7

“This I declare about the Lord: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; he is my God, and I trust him.” (Psalm 91:2 NLT)

New Testament Verse of the Day

“Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.” (James 1:12)

Hi Ho, Hi Ho, It’s off to run errands I go.

Well, that is all for today. I am off to the store and library and maybe after I get done with those errands, it will be warm enough to finish mowing Michele’s Meadow. (It is only supposed to be 66 today and is currently 54.) If not, it will wait until tomorrow, when it is supposed to be 79 degrees.

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Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of chocolate, red roses and golden retrievers and is an amateur photographer.

START HERE

Welcome to my Start Here page.

This page was created as a supplement to my About/Contact page with links to my various adventures since Joe’s passing.

Most Important Link on my site – Suicide Sermon by Sr. Pastor Adam Hamilton, Church of the Resurrection, Leawood, KS  – Like a Broken Vessel: The Gospel and Suicide

Bookshelves

Featured on Other Blogs

Various Resources

My Grief Journey

10 Years A Widow Series

(A series about my observations based on my experiences the past 10 years.)

Rebuilding My Career – It Is Tough! 

411 For Employers

“Diaper” Posts (Bladder Control Required Before Reading)

Faith / Beliefs 

 My Faithful Finish Lines Fitness Journey

I Believe In You – Series

Posts Written By or About Rommie  (Golden Retriever Daughter)

Book Reviews – Launch Teams

I was blessed to be a part of several book launch teams. These are links to the book reviews.

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