One of the most important lessons you will learn, if you don’t already know, is that God calls the shots in this life.
He knows the plan and how you fit into it. Even Jesus knew God was in charge because he taught the disciples to pray
“Thy will be done.”
Matthew 6:10
God knows the moment of our birth and the moment He is going to call us home.

Your eyes saw my unformed substance;
in your book were written, every one of them,
the days that were formed for me,
when as yet there was none of them.Psalm 139:16

This verse first brought me comfort when I was going through the GriefShare program. It also brought a lot of comfort to other people who came through the program. Comfort because there was nothing we could have done to prevent our spouse’s death.
Now, just because God determined our lifespan, does not mean you have the right to go pig out on fast food every day. You need to take care of the body God gave you as a way of saying thank you to Him and to have the best quality of life possible while you are on this side of heaven.
What it does mean is because you do not know when God will call a loved one home, you need to show the people in your life that you love and care about them. Show them every day. Yes, some days it will be hard. to show your love to a man who thinks he is going to die from the sniffles. (been there, done that.)
It’s a tough pill to swallow knowing your loved one has fulfilled his part in God’s plan when he’s called home.
However, you are still here which means you have not fulfilled your destiny according to God’s will.
So honor God and your loved one’s memory by moving forward with your new life.
And learn to pray
“Thy will be done.”
Matthew 6:10
because it will be done.
Hillary Scott and the Scott Family Singers, say it better than I ever could.

Bio: Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She shares her widowhood adventures hoping to encourage widows to move through grief and rebuild their lives. A graduate of Kent State University with a Bachelor’s degree in communications, she’s used those skills while managing call center teams, facilitating a grief support group and helping small businesses with various writing and administrative assignments. Michele is a bookworm, lover of chocolate, red roses and golden retrievers and is an amateur photographer.
Both your writing and Hilary Scott’s song are beautiful and perfectly express confident surrender and trust in our Savior. Thank you for your ecouragement and inspiration!! 💜💜
You are welcome Lynn.