How I Got Through My First Halloween Without Rommie & November Plans

Happy Sugar Hangover Day! 

It was 13 years on October 14th, that Rommie came to live with Joe and me. She quickly learned what the doorbell meant and what Halloween was all about – BELLYRUBS!

She would approach people in a crouched position and when they would ask why she was doing that, she immediately rolled over on her back so she could get belly rubs. Everybody laughed as they thought she was so cute.

After spending most of the day with Mom, I stopped by the cemetery to get the arrangement I put out for Rommie after she moved to heaven. The graves had to be cleared by November 1 and since I was that direction, I went and did it. Probably not the best day to do it since it is Halloween and it was 3 months ago today Rommie went to live with God, Jesus and Joe.

But that’s life.

I came home and started in on the Halloween makeup. Even though I had foundation on and reapplied blush heavily, it does not look like I have any on in my pictures. My skin sucks up foundation and blush – always has, always will.

Once the makeup was done and I got out my house dress a friend brought me from Jordan, I was ready to go. I then had “grilled cheese” sandwiches. I took a kaiser bun covered the bottom with shredded cheddar and nuked for 30 seconds. Yum! Although not exactly nutritious but at least is was quick.                     😉

Then I got out the Dark Shadows cd and put it on. One of the tracks was I’ll Be With You Always. On heck, I forgot about that track. No tears now, you’ll ruin your make up.

I see dressing up and passing out candy as part of my grief therapy, not sure I’ve fully processed Rommie’s passing since it was 8 days later I got rear ended. That has a way of shifting your focus from grief to doing what it takes to get well.


I’ll be with you always, ever, forever

I’ll always be near you, though far away

With my love beside you, you won’t be lonely

We’ll meet again dear, some distant day

So don’t be afraid of the future unknown

For I am at your side, you are never alone

I’ll be with you always, ever together

Eternally bonded, never apart

I’ll be with you always, ever together

Eternally bonded, never apart

Always, never apart

Always, never apart

Barnabas Collins / Jonathan Frid

Dark Shadows Soundtrack

Over And Done With

Well trick or treat is over for another year. I made it through without shedding a tear, although it was bittersweet. I would upload pictures of me but even though they are on the computer, I am not seeing them when I tell WordPress to upload a picture.

Oh well, that’s life.

I will leave you with the words from the another one of Jonathan Frid’s tracks.

‘Our revels now are ended’

Our revels now are ended. These our actors, As I foretold you, were all spirits and Are melted into air, into thin air: And, like the baseless fabric of this vision, The cloud-capp’d towers, the gorgeous palaces, The solemn temples, the great globe itself, Yea, all which it inherit, shall dissolve And, like this insubstantial pageant faded, Leave not a rack behind. We are such stuff As dreams are made on, and our little life Is rounded with a sleep.

William Shakespeare

From The Tempest,

Act 4 Scene 1

Hope everyone stayed safe and enjoy your candy!

This is the picture of Rommie from 2011 that I cropped to use as the image for 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster.

Plans for November

So glad to put the month of October, the Write31Days challenge, and Halloween behind me. The challenge was such a struggle to write. I had the ideas but the words were barely there. I kept reminding myself that when I started blogging, I published everyday. How I did that, I do not know.

Time to move forward and rest. Oh wait, I signed up for Blogging 201 and Writing 101 with WordPress. Writing 101 is a post a day through most of November and Blogging 201 deals with the behind the scenes maintenance of the blog. So much for rest.

  • Writing 101 I am going to use as private writing practice. You may see a post here and there.
  • Blogging 201 is what will get most of my attention. I think I understand most of what I can do with my blog’s theme but we shall see. You may see a few tweeks here and there to the blog during November. I will be learning some basic HTML coding in this course. This ought to be fun.

I will also be working on plans for January 13th, 2016 – the 5 year anniversary of my first post on JoyReturns. Wahoo!!!!

Well time to go take my Halloween makeup off and call it a night. Hopefully you remembered to turn your clocks back an hour.

See you later this week.


2 thoughts on “How I Got Through My First Halloween Without Rommie & November Plans”

  1. My prayers and thoughts are always with you, Michele.

    Denali the Happy Husky sends a Husky Hug! When she hugged me this morning, I thought of you, and wondered how you’d gotten through this Halloween. SO I think that hug was to be passed along to you.

    She just barked at me. So I think, yes.

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