{ Day 20 } Rommie’s Tricks for Scaring Away the Grief Monster – SNIFF!

Good Afternoon and welcome to Day # 20 of 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster. This is day 3 of Rommie’s tricks.

The trick for today is



Rommie sniffing out the monster in our neighbor’s yard a few years ago.

Quote Meditation

Smell is a potent wizard that transports us across thousands of miles and all the years we have lived. 

Helen Keller

Aromatherapy can help you deal with the stress of grief. It can calm your nerves, relax you and help you fall asleep.


I read an article years ago that stated people who are sick tend to heal faster and better with a light scent of vanilla in the air. I am not sure it will help with grief but it can’t hurt. It is a comforting smell. A smell reminiscent of days spent cooking and baking. No wonder people heal faster with vanilla in the air.


Sensuous by Estee Lauder has been my go to fragrance ever since it came out about 6 months after Joe’s passing. It smells like a warm hug and I need hugs, lots and lots of hugs. It is musky (which Joe hated) but very feminine and contains notes of Jasmine, which helps induce sleep but you wake out without the “groggy” feeling that you get with lavender.

I ask Santa for this every Christmas and highly recommend it.



Buy yourself some drug or grocery store flowers every now and then. Besides giving you something to sniff, they will add a pop of color to your dining, living or whatever room you choose to display them.

Rommie and Aromatherapy

I encourage you to find ways to incorporate aromatherapy into your life. Rommie had a unique way of incorporating aromatherapy into her life that involved sniffing out skunks, including biting one one the butt when she was a pup. And of course, she was good at sniffing out treats.                       😉

Eww! He Smells Funny!
Eww! He Smells Funny!


Here is a link to an article from Psychology Today on using smells to enhance your life. My fellow job seekers, please pay attention to the second bullet point.


10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of photography at, where she is running the series 31 Days of Autumn in Ohio – because running a 31 Day series on one blog is not enough insanity.