{ Day 12 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – PRUNE

Scripture Quote

He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.

John 15:2

God pruned your life. He knew your husband’s time line. He knew his moment of birth and moment of passing since before the world was born.

Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.


Psalm 139:16

Your life is not over because your husband’s timeline ended. On the contrary, God is giving you the opportunity to do more with life, more than what was possible with your husband. Seize the opportunity to grow and flourish in your new life.

Yes, it stinks that you and your husband will not grow old together. Joe and I had 14 ¾ years as husband and wife. In God’s eyes it was enough for each of us to grow into the person He needed us to be before He got out the pruning shears. Joe had to go live in heaven so I would continue to grow here.

Pruned Quote

Now It’s Your Turn

Once you get through the initial shock and start putting together a new life, you will discover the need to prune different branches of your life. Pruning the necessary areas is forward progress. Those areas could include career, hobbies, surroundings and unfortunately family and friends.You will determine which branches of your life need pruning as you travel through your grief journey.

Quickie Decsions

Do not make quick decisions about what area you are going to prune. If you make a hasty decision prune a friendship after a misunderstanding, it may take a long time for the relationship to grow back – if ever. Even if it does grow back, it will never be the same again.

You will not like pruning your life but remember, pruning is necessary because withered vines will not produce fresh fruit.

Resource: Today’s post at in which Ferree Hardy writes about grief’s labor pains, fruit and how God sees widows.

Quote Meditation

Better to be pruned to grow than cut up to burn. 

John Trapp

10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of her photography at, where she is running the series 31 Days of Autumn in Ohio – because running a 31 Day series on one blog is not enough insanity.