Valentine’s Day: The Elephant In The Room This Week

Let’s just name and claim the elephant in the room this week –

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Valentines Day. 

A rough day for those fresh in their grief.

For the rest of us it can still be rough if ambushed by the grief monster.

I no longer have a rough time with Valentine’s day because I decided years ago to stay home away from all the festivities, as this lessens the chances of an ambush. Would I stay home if I were dating? No, not unless I was cooking a romantic dinner for two.

Wherever you are at in your grief the best thing to do to get through Valentine’s Day is to make a plan.

Do only what you feel up to doing.

If people want to take you out to lunch see if that can be done on Friday or Sunday and avoid the chaotic restaurants on Saturday.

May Valentine’s Day be filled with joy even in the midst of your grief. Sometimes the anticipation of a holiday is worse than the holiday itself.

Here is a video I got in my email yesterday. May it be of comfort to you this week and always.

Remember:

“Earth has no sorrow that heaven can’t cure.”

Comments

  1. I love that song and believe it to be true – Heaven can cure all. However, healing comes in it’s own time and with a lot of effort for those who are journeying through grief. 25 years after my husband’s death (he died on 2-13) Valentine’s Day is still a painful day!

    • Yes, heaven does cure us according to God’s timeline and not ours. I guess if healing were quick we would not appreciate it as much. I will keep you in my prayers during the next few days. Romans 15:13 is a verse that has been speaking to me lately. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

  2. It can be such a tough day for so many people…thank you for sharing your heart on this.

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