Each person’s grief is unique simply because each person is unique.
The world would be a boring place if everyone did everything the same way – including grieving.
Don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve. They may have experienced the same loss and that gives them a “general” idea of what you are going through. However, they are not you so they are “clueless” as to the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing.
The length of time it takes to work through grief also varies from person to person. Some might be 110% in 6 weeks, 6 months, a year or even 18 months. It is just going to depend upon who you lost, the type of relationship you had with the deceased, and the circumstances of the person’s death.
In my opinion, if you truly loved the person you will never be 100% healed. The best you will be is 99% because you carry your loved one in your heart.
If someone tells criticizes you for how you grieve, tell them to “Walk A Mile In My Shoes.”
Walk A Mile In My Shoes
If I could be you, if you could be me
For just one hour, if we could find a way
To get inside each other’s mind
If you could see you through my eyes
Instead your own ego I believe you’d be
I believe you’d be surprised to see
That you’ve been blind
Walk a mile in my shoes
just walk a mile in my shoes
Before you abuse, criticize and accuse
Then walk a mile in my shoes
Words & Music by Joe South
Sung by Elvis Presley