{ Day 9 } 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster – BEAR

Scripture Meditation

For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.

They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.

Psalm 91: 11-12

Welcome to Day 9 of 31 Tricks to Scare Away the Grief Monster. Today’s “trick” is


Bearing The First Year

There is a protective cloud around you the first year. It acts as a buffer zone between you and the world. It gradually fades throughout the first year. Some people refer to it as a “fog” or a “haze” God puts around you. In a strange way it makes life easier to bear. It is hard to explain how because there are plenty of intense grief moments during the first year.

Think of it as God’s arms wrapped around you, comforting you. I guess that is why grief in some ways is easier to bear, because of his protective arms.

Slowly during the year, He removes the “fog.” So after you will see clearly once you make it through the first year.

Bearing Fruit

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:22-23


Living out this scripture during the first year, will also make grief less hard to bear. The grief monster does not like it when you bear your grief with forbearance (patience), or when you do random acts of kindness or being faithful in your walk with Jesus.

What fruit are you bearing as you travel through your grief journey?

Quote Meditation

Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.

Henri Nouwen
10-10-2011_3by5Michele Kearns is the founder and HUG© (Hope Unites Globally) Award-Winner of JoyReturns.com. She encourages widows and educates society about grief and life as a widow by sharing her widowhood adventures. A graduate of Kent State University with a degree in communications, she has used her skills in the banking, collections, outdoor products and social media industries. Michele is a bookworm, lover of golden retrievers and an amateur photographer. You can see more of her photography at OgleOhio.com.

Weekend Wisdom: Respond

Let these words guide you this week and always.


As we arise each morning let us determine to respond with more love and kindness to whatever might come our way. 

Thomas S. Monson


Holiday Weekend Wisdom: Dr. King

Here are a few of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s quotes. May at least one of them resonate with you.

Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, “What are you doing for others? ” 

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.


The time is always right to do what is right.

Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend.


I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.


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